Paul O'grady And Funeral Wishes In General

[barry1010]

Paul was buried next to his former lover as he wanted. I believe but don't know that it was in his Will and can't help but feel a little pang for Paul's widower.

I am of course projecting my own feelings on to Paul's widower who may be much bigger hearted than me.

My question is if you were in that position and your spouse stated in his/her Will that they wished to be buried next to their late ex would you comply? Funeral wishes in a Will are not legally binding so don't have to be adhered to but are public documents so if you did choose an alternative you might be found out.

[KUSTARD]

Barry 9.20. Gawd Barry how long did it take you to think that one up?!!!!! You should be on the stage (brushing up LOL). At least we can laugh!!

[Vagus]

It must be very difficult, you don’t fall out of love with someone when they die. I think I’d feel I’d have to do what the person wanted regardless of my own feelings.
It would never happen in our family though as everyone has been, and will be, cremated, and the ashes put in either a river, or woodland in various locations.

[barry1010]

I know myself well enough to know that I would feel very hurt in that situation but hope I would be big enough to comply, not sure I could live with the guilt if I didn't.

I know deep and abiding love doesn't die, it is always there unless it turns to hate. I have fallen in love and out of love with people but that is not true love, not for me, anyway. Feels like love at the time but fizzles out. I do feel though that if a widow(er) loves somebody else enough to marry them then the new spouse has to take priority, after all s/he is the one that would have to live with the consequences of that decision should their spouse die first.

[Barsel]

When I was researching my family history some years ago, I found where my great grandfather was buried. My great grandmother married again and was buried in the same grave when she died, then when her 2nd husband died, he was buried in there as well! Bet my great grandfather wasn't too happy about that.