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I have a strong feeling we won't get a call from friend. If not it will be a letter from Mr T asking quesfions and then a solicitor. You've put our minds at rest that we can pursue matters.
It could be of course that sister in law gave her friend poa and all is being handled properly. But why on earth did friend not keep us informed. She was the one who actually contacted us to tell us she was ill, and that she would keep us in touch. She never informed us she had gone into a care home. My husband is so upset that he wasn't even given the opportunity to see his sister. He was totally left out.