My Mum Said I Never Wanted To Know My Grandparents

[Treacle71]

My grandparents lived 300 miles away whom I saw twice a year growing up. They never came to visit me as a child/toddler/baby/young teen - ever and the only time I saw them was when I used go there with my mum twice yearly. I'm 53 now and my grandparents died when I was mid teenage age. Now mum is saying I never liked them and never wanted to build a relationship with them, but how could I have built a relationship when I saw them twice yearly as a child? Even when we were going through trauma they never visit us. Now mum's blaming me for not 'getting along' with them and I don't get it? 🤷

[Treacle71]

I am in awe of your answers.  Thank you to all.  xx

[Canary42]

FAO pastafreak:  bedsit and studio flat are almost synonymous when it comes to estate agent speak, but the latter sounds "posher". Here is what Wiki has to say :-

In the United Kingdom (British), a studio flat is usually a single room with cooking facilities which has its own bathroom attached. Traditionally, if a dwelling has a shared bathroom, it is known as a bedsit. This distinction is encountered less frequently, as are bedsits themselves (especially in large cities) due to the consequences of the Housing Act 1989 discouraging landlords from offering this once widespread type of accommodation.

[barry1010]

I've been in a few bedsits - one room in a house for sleeping and living in with a shared bathroom and kitchen. Usually a slot meter for gas and electric in each bedsit and sometimes for  the shower too.   

Not a house share as there in no communal living space and no shared bills, often very little contact with the other bedistters.

Often the landlord lived on the premises too.