Should she still be going out all the time?

[capitan_usa]

My GF and I met around 6 months ago and recently she moved into my house. All is going great, except for her constant going out on "exclusive girl's nights out" 2-3 Fridays & Saturdays a month.
This is now starting to get me down a little as it's not something me and my friends do and if we do, then its something partners are invited to and not just exclusive to us.
When I try to talk to her about it, all she says is either "these are things we've always done and were planned before we met" or "I'm a firm believer of just because you're with someone, things shouldn't change with your friends"
I'm 30 & she's 28. And I think 6 months is long enough to get rid of stuff that was planed before we met. We do both love each other so much, and have talked lots about the long term future, but to me weekends should start being about us more.
I'm a pretty easy going guy, but this is now really getting me down.
Is it me?

[filthiestfis]

Captain_ usa do yourself a favour and finish it with her-the longer this goes on the more resentment it will cause between you two. She cant love you enough if she isnt willing to spend quaility time with you, if at 28 she still wants to act like an 18 year old and get drunk every weekend, I dont reckon she is mature enough to be in a relationship. Being in a relationship is about treating each other with equal measures of love and respect, and commitment and trust. Do you know what really happens when she is out and about? She may very well be getting off with blokes, but she wouldnt tell you, as what you dont know wont hurt.

I sincerely hope things work out, but to me she sounds like trouble, I would confront her about it in a nice, calm way, see if sahe is willing to compromise. If she isnt, then be a man and finish with her. Come on, you deserve better than to be tread on like a dorrmat, mate!
good luck :-)

[joko]

filthistie - that is a ridiculous argument!!

"oh she may be getting off with blokes"

why? just because she goes out? millions of people go out every weekend and don't get off with anyone!!

you are just trying to make capitan usa feel even worse, which is a bit sad on your part.

i don't know what she does when she goes out - and neither do any of you.

the issue here is that capitan usa seems to expect her whole life to change to suit him - it won't and if you just expect it or demand it you will be disappointed.

regarding the rugby - what are you expecting her to do - be a cheerleader or something?
are these important matches - every week?
- why do you need her to stand in the cold and rain watching you run around? will this help your game?

[filthiestfis]

Nope I dont agree with your thinking joko.