My BF tells me he loves me and I cant say it back

[support4]

We have been having problems and I thought the reason I wasnt feeling it was because I had a lot of other pressures and he wasnt helping so I thought well Im just still mad. BUT when he says he loves me, I dont want to say it back I have to be prompted, Ive gone off sex and its hard because I know I mean I really know he loves me, an dits just before christmas etc etc. Trouble is we have a holiday looming to pay �1000 for and Im uncomfortable paying its in March and I dont hink we'll last that long - do I just need to bite the bullet??

[sam100]

you should never feel compelled to tell someone you love them, if you feel that you will love this person in time you should just explain that you arn't ready to tell him that but when you do at least he will knwo you really mean it....
If your not sure that you do love him or could then i think you should figure out your feelings by perhaps having a bit of space to decide what you want...
Re: the holiday i myself was in the same situation last month when the balance needed paying for a holiday in Feb and i want sure if we will make it so i made up an excuse such as financial etc so that we cancelled it.
If you are having doubts now it would suggest that perhaps you already know the outcome...?
As for the sex if you are suffering from stress this can sometimes make you feel not in the mood.
My idea would be to spend some time with friends and if you can find someone you can trust to offload onto it makes you feel soooo much better to jsut run it by someone else who knows you.
Unfortuantely there is never a right time to do these things but if you have thought it through enough you will always make the best chpice for you at the time and that is all that matters. best of luck and let us know what happens.x

[jno]

sounds like the question of saying 'I love you' may be a bit of a red herring. You're worrying about sex and about money and about whether it's all with the right guy. Those are deeper problems than what you say to him. You really need first to sort out how you feel about him (sounds like you don't want him and aren't quite up to admitting it yet), and then to sit down and discuss it with him. There isn't any easy way to break up, but doing it with honesty is better than the alternative.