Goodbye my best friend

[Roughquest]

I had my beloved lab put to sleep tonight, I never want to have to do that again, I feel so lost now, I have come home and my house feels empty, cold, I threw up when i got home I felt so bad, god I miss him.
He was my life.....I loved him so very much. I just feel so restless now....i dont know what to do....
RQ xx

[ruthann58]

RQ thinking of you , dont feel gulity you did the best for him and did not let him suffer it never stops hurting you just get used to it ,dont worry about crying it wont do any harm , in time you will laugh about him , more often then you will cry i still cry for my horse which i lost over 4 years ago he was at least 26 years and he got colic and after having the vet out 3 times in 24hours i made the decision to let him go he was insured and could have gone to newmarket but he had not been boxed for over 15 years and the journey would have terrified him ,so he was put to sleep in his paddock which was the best thing for him ,for weeks aferwards i felt guilty that i did not send him to newmarket but i know now that it would have been for me and not what was best for him xxx ruth

[snigsthecat]

I am so sorry for your loss...it hits us hard when we lose a cherished friend.
The poem made me cry but you should now that you will in time know that you did the right thing in the end and you will be able to smile again when you think of him...
give yourself some time to grieve.
my thoughts are with you

chrisx

[andy-hughes]

Although we all say the same - you did what had to be done - it doesn't take the pain away, or even take the edge off it.

Grief is a process that has to be endured, there are no short cuts, but know that even though you don't feel it - every day is a day closer to assimilating your loss, and the pain will eventually reduce to a managaebale level.

Please don't feel guilty - you should only feel guilt if you kept your poor pet alive to stop you from suffering - and you took the step you had to take beacause you loved him very much.

The grief is to be endured, but the love and memories are to be savoured, so hold them close.

Thinking of you.

A x

[horsestache1]

I know exactly how you feel, I had to have my dog Max put to sleep 2 weeks ago, Yvonnes poem still made me cry, it takes time to get over it no matter what anyone says. But it does get easier.

I've just got a new puppy and though Tally will never replace max, she is taking my mind of him for short periods. And has a personality all of her own

Take care XXXX

[garner]

most of us have been in your situation and we know just how you feel.but rq think of all the poor dogs who have not got anybody who will cry for them, when they are gone.things will get better in time love.

[cat woman]

Hi Roughquest, I'm so, so, sorry to learn of your very sad parting of your beloved pet, reading the replies has opened old wounds for me and I'm typing this with tear's streaming down my face. It's so very hard to let go of our much loved pet's no matter how long they have lived for as they become such an important part of our lives, they love us unconditionally, ask for so little but give alot in return.

I had to let go of my dear cat Misty December 16th 6 years ago at the grand old age of 18 and a half, even now after all this time I still miss her, but I have comfort knowing that I gave her a happy life, and was much loved. We had to let another cat Sooty go this year in February, then we tragically lost Merlin in May, we are still grieving our loss, in time we will come to terms with pain in our hearts, but we will never forget these much loved pet's.

Please take comfort in that everyone is terribly sad and sympathetic at this sorrowful time for you, as we have all been where you are now and can understand totally what you are going through, my thought's are with you at this sad time.

cat woman xxx :-(

[lindapinda]

Hi Roughquest..My first dog Flash,had to be put to sleep many years ago.It still hurts to this day.Never be afraid to acknowledge how much love you can feel for your pets,and how devastated it can make you feel when they die. Thinking of you..Linda x

[bensmum]

I logged on to the site yesterday having just returned from the vet where I had had my cat put down so I can really feel for you. I felt guilty for doing it although I knew she was very ill and when the vet told me that she was very sick I felt guilty for not doing it sooner. This feeling will stay with you for a time but it will get easier as you start to remember the good times. If you know some pet lovers talk to them about how you are feeling - anyone who has loved a pet will understand. I am in tears as I write this having read the lovely poem. It's good to know that there is so much understanding out there.

[beryllium]

Dearest Roughquest,
I couldn't read anymore after Yvonnes poem so I don't know if I may be repeating someone.....
I had my Ridgeback for many years and then the loss.
I mourned for him so badly, a piece of me was torn out.
I had him cremated, and now he's in his special box with his special name and he lived by the fireplace for a very long time.
Wwe moved and yep!!! Red is still with us but he's now nice and cozy in a box in the attic.
I now have a new dog after many years of saying never again!!!! of course this is not what I'm suggesting for you :) as your pain is so new and so so deep.................
With the deepest of Love and my Thoughts to you All.
B xXx

[poopy]

Sorry for your loss. Im in tears just reading your note. Like you my dogs are my life. Im sure you gave him a good life with lots of love and happy times. It may be too soon to think about getting another dog and right now you probably think NO WAY you dont want to go through this again but there are other dogs out there that need the love, care and friendship you have to offer.
Your bestfriend has gone but you should find comfort in knowing he was well looked after, well cared for, well loved and lived a very good life. He will not be forgotten. But if you've got the love to give then you will find another friend when your ready.
All my love and thoughts.
xxxxxxxxxxxxxx

[goosing]

made me cry too. lost my cat 2 months ago and 2 dogs over the years (one a very daft male black lab). it will get better tho you'll never forget him, you did your best and showed your love by doing it. hugs and kisses

[welshfox]

RQ - I know how you feel - nothing will ever take the pain away and nothing will ever replace your best and most loyal companion. We lost our family rottie, Rosa, a few months ago, and our other one, Sabre, a few Christmas Eve's ago - I know how you feel as all I did for weeks after both, was be sick, cry my heart out and hate myself.
Our last Rottie lived with my parents, but stayed with me a lot.I couldn't believe how lonely I felt without her being there - We'd been through so much together - I bet you feel the same.

All I'll say, is that a few weeks later, I went to Pets at Home for fish food, and saw the local Dogs Trust outside holding a rehoming rally. As I tried to avoid them, due to the fact I was still heartbroken by my loss, a rottie pup came running over to me and jumped onto me. I leant over to stroke it and walk away, and she licked my face and walked with me. Needless to say, it was love at first sight, and after hearing how much she needed a new home, I brought her to mine 5 days later and she's stayed ever since.

We'd all said that no other dog would come into our homes or hearts, but she's stolen mine, and I know her Auntie Rosa is watching her, and telling her exactly how to wind me up. She even has some of her traits eventhough she has her own unique personality.

You will come to accept what has happened RQ, and the guilt will be replaced with memories of happy time you spent together, shoes and furniture chewed to bits, food stolen from worktops and shopping bags etc etc.
Its still a raw pain I feel when I see Rosa and Sabre's pictures, but I know theyre not suffering anymore, and that I helped them when they needed me most.

I really hope that the messages of support you have been given here, will make you realise that you did the kindest thing you could have, and that your baby will be looking down on you now, and wishing they were there to lick your tears. I hope

[benjiesmum]

So sorry to hear of your sad loss. The same thing happened to me two year's ago my Barney collapsed in front of us and by the time we got him to the vet he was dead. He was a lovely golden retriever. We, like you, went home to a sad house and I cried for days. However, I took the advice of a close friend who had also lost her dog. So, I went searching for a replacement the very next day. That may sound hard but when you have a new puppy to look after and cuddle it is such a comfort. I wasn't sure it was the right thing to do but we had to do something. The puppy we got we named Benjie and, as fate would have it, we discovered that Barney was actually his Great Uncle! My hubby was slow to come round to a new pup but two years on and we are besotted with Benjie. That doesn't mean we have forgotten Barney. He is on our desk top on the computer. But, believe me it's the best decision we made. In another year or so we are going to get another one so that we have two dogs and then hopefully we are never in that situation again. I feel for you. Remember the good times and look to the future. He wouldn't want you to be sad.