Confusion in a double long time love.

[merdok]

Hi,

I'm 25 years old and i've been with my girlfriend for just over 7 years now. I love her dearly and we are very close, people often comment on how loving and tender we are with each other even after such a long time and often assume we are a new couple.

The problem is another girl who I think I may also love. Now I'm not a 'love rat' before anyone calls me it... I've never done anything more than hold this girls hand and I'm really not the cheating type anyway.

To make thins easier I'm going to call my girlfriend 'girl1' and the other girl 'girl2'.

Ok... so I've been with girl1 since I was 17, I cant remember a time without her and she is the only girl I've ever done anything more than kiss with. Girl 2 i've known for about 6 years... me and girl1 enrolled ina night course together and girl2 happened to be in the same course, they became 'sort of' friends and would take the same bus home and talk... at this point I found girl2 attractive but didnt have any other feelings for her.

about a year and a half later I started working at a company which it turned out she also worked at... I emailed her to ask how her results were and she emailed back and we became very close friends... I found out several years later that she didnt even realise we were in the same class at the time and emailed me back cos she liked me... about 5 years ago one of her friends told me that she was in love with me but I didnt want to do anything as I was with girl1. Since then she has told me herself (whilst very drunk) that she loved me too.

[notfrom-oz]

�When you can�t choose between two evenly balanced course of action to take, choose the bolder.�

[LostStar]

You sound like a genuinely nice, caring guy. Ok, so you're confused and you have two great girls in your life... but i think that maybe time away from both of them would do you some good. GEF: So what if he's25 and can't make his mind up? It's a big decision and either way could very well make a big impact on the rest of your life merdok. Honesty isn't always the best policy in every case, but maybe setting them both straight and then taking time out for yourself and for them in the long run would be best. I hope all works out for you, good luck.x