Still can't stop thinking about an ex?

[craigiep]

Is there a love from your past you still think about? SHOULD you be thinking about someone else? How long have you been thinking of them, and how often? Why do you reckon they're still the subject of your thoughts after all this time? Would you ever do anything about it? Or HAVE you ever done anything about it and, if so, what happened?

[dot.hawkes]

there are two people, both now deceased, that i think about almost daily and in the first case it has been 35 years since he died, in the second, he died in 2000, the same year as my mum, I knew him from 1974 onwards and he was the love of my life, we were never able to be together, but he was always in my thoughts.

I still think about both of them several times a day but it is a part of my existence and is never a worry or an issue, they do say noone dies as long as they are thought of.

[Pinky99]

Yes there is an ex from my past, yes i should and do think about other people, I only really think about my ex when CSA programs appear on the telly, they are in my thoughts all the time I suppose when I look at my son however on a more emotional level then no, I will only ever do anything about it when my son asks me too - answered you in a hap hazard way I think!!

[Madgirl2]

I never quite managed to get it together with a guy I knew a few years ago. Although we were both single there were various reasons (not excuses but genuine issues) which meant we could never give it a go. He is in the forces and spends alot of time away to name one. Anyway, the attraction was immense on both sides and I've often wondered what it would have been like if we'd got together. He has contacted me 3 or 4 times in the last year but I have been in a relationship for 2 years. My current partner is a decent and honest man who does not deserve to be cheated on so I have declined all offers from this other person. Guess I'll just have to keep on wondering.........

[Denisdiamond]

One person who I have loved since I met her in 1978. I was married then and still am to the same person although we are separated and I am living with someone else.( It,s a long story ). She died in 1991 and mostly every day I think of her. I never lived with her but we spent a lot of time together, and my heart still aches for her. I know that I will never love anyone as much before or after, but I will die knowing what true love is like. 3 T A L by T C ( Ditloid )

[willa]

I've been blissfully married for more than 20 years to the absolute love of my life, and yet I frequently wonder about my first boyfriend, to whom I became engaged after just 3 months together.

When I was fresh at uni in the early 1980s, I met a guy 6 years older than me while working at a local veteran's hospital for the summer. He was receiving treatment for multiple sclerosis, which he contracted while in the Navy.

After being engaged for 4 months, the differences in our lives and experiences really took their toll, and he broke up with me. I was devastated, mainly because he never gave me what I thought was a satisfactory reason. That's probably why I wonder about him - 'cuz if I did something wrong, he didn't tell me, and how would I know what to fix for my next relationship? In time, I came to learn how incompatible we were. He just knew long before me.

But I do wonder what happened to him and how his health is, especially because I've since seen the ravages of MS on both my best pal and my husband's nephew. Another (less noble) reason is because during the last month of our relationship, he started community college and when I went to one of his classes with him, he introduced me to a classmate named Melanie. She had more than a casual interest in him, I'm sure. I've always wondered if he hooked up with her.

I've gone only so far as to Google him, but he's got an incredibly common name. So I've never found a phone # for him. If I ever did, I'm sure the most I'd do is call and ask for Melanie, then hang up. I'd be too chicken to do anything more.

[bounce]

Yeah I wonder what it would be like to be with my ex again. Strangely enough I guess current partners are bit like your ex's?!

[Denisdiamond]

Yes,Bounce, I wish.

[bounce]

Do you mean you want to be with your ex or your current partner is like your ex denisdiamond??

[Denisdiamond]

Unfortunately, Bounce , my current girlfriend is nothing like the girl from 1978, but then, she may feel the same about me with her ex!

[Eve]

Yes, I often think about my ex fiancee who is the only man I'v ever really loved and found a real connection with.

I have a ex who I was with only for about a month back in 1997 who I remained friends with and texted and e.mailed every now and again. We have only actually seen each other once for about an hour since summer 1999 when he was here for a concert with some other people from uni.

When we met he said he was getting married but then started sending me increasingly amarous texts. I let it be thinking it was pre-wedding jitters but it carried on after the wedding and unfortunately after he took it a step too far I had to cut off contact with him.