for info, yes there are masonic lodges for women. You will find more woman lodges in France and Belgium, I can even tell that theire are mixed lodges in Belgium but yes they are not recognised by the massonic Grand lodges of Scotland, England and Ireland.
To give also an answer to fairkatrina do not try to get behind the secrets of the masonic handshakes has everyone of them have specific meaning and history behind it. If you whant to join the Free Mason you need to be, free and of good report. Theire are ennough Info around Freemassonery on the net who will give you a better inside of what it is all about.