Men testing Women

[girlieflirt]

Hi all - I just have a question. Why do men test women? I have been with my boyfriend for a few months now, sometimes i feel he tests me, such as won't ring for a while..I don't give reactions, like he has mentioned his ex a few times, not alot but dropped her into convo..Inside it really p*ssed me off, but i didn't say anything, just smiled sweetly! Any advice/comments would be grateful...x

[liquidspace]

Maybe he is insecure or feels you dont love him enough? You are doing the best thing by not giving reactions.

[girlieflirt]

May be to test my potential as a longer partner..He has told me his ex girlfriend used to say things like "When will you marry me" etc, constanly on at him to get married; think he freaked him out..Even when we first met, she was still ringing him, asking him to get back with her! He made it clear to her he had met someone else (me) and he was fine in telling me...

[liquidspace]

Is he trying to make u jealous?
Only you know how he is with you, is he stand offish or is he really into you?
It seems like you are the opposite of his ex who sounds clingy, seeing as you dont react to him, it does sound like he is testing you, seeing if you are like her etc.

[girlieflirt]

No, nothing is said in a jealous why, he is really into me, takes me to nice places when we go out, he's very generous and very thoughtful, he's away at the minute, and the contact we had together (Everyday!) for the last 3 weeks, has somewhat calmed down, i havent spoken to him for a few days..i think i am ibeing paranoid, as i say he might be testing me to see if i react to him not contacting me...x

[4getmenot]

maybe he's not testing. Alot of blokes dont ring for a while, thats just blokes. Girls play mind games too. I think you look to much into it but you're right to ignore any talk of exes.

[4getmenot]

and you wonder why woman get obsessed with men, because they play this game not realising it and well its worked, its got you thinking about him :-) Good plan if you ask me.

[liquidspace]

To be honest it doesnt seem much to worry about, guys are like that, as you say, if he is into you and treats you well then I dont see there is a problem.

[redhead23]

sounds like he is insecure and mabye is also trying to distance himself from getting too hurt. i would do exactly the same as u and play him at his own game , if not plenty more men out there , dont waste time with games , do u think that mabye the honeymoon period is over and this is just the way he likes things??? casual good luck x