To stay with her ????

[xx marti xx]

I've been with a girl now for 3.5 years,we have never argued and we do have lots of fun together.The question is do I stay with her
I know its shallow but when I look at her I dont want to "Be" with her,but I really do like her,she's fun to be with and she makes me laugh.Should I just make do with feeling like this or do something about it ??
I want to meet someone I fancy !
What should i do ???

[LouBoo]

You may love this girl, but you're not longer IN love with her.

You need to end this relationship. Its unfair on you and its unfair on her. It sounds like you'd end up cheating on this girl if/when you meet someone new and who you do fancy. I think you need to break it off with her now, she deserves your honesty.
You never know, in time, you may be able to still enjoy her company and be friends with her, but don't expect this straight away and it may too difficult for her or even both of you to do right now.

Hope this helps. x

[xx marti xx]

i'd never cheat on her,i'd never cheat on anyone!
i've never been in love with her, i was hoping it would just come .She knows how i feel and she doesn't push for any more.I dont want to loose something that she is willing to give but im not ready for,if that makes sense ???

[redhead23]

marti,
if u feeling like this get out of it , or you will feel resentment in the long run, sounds like your more like best mates then anything else
splitting up with people is crap , but u don't even fancy her , move on life is too short or have a trial seperation x

[xx marti xx]

I think its like being with someone 4 a long time.after the "fun" your just with them .The lust has gone and your just used to being with them as a couple.I have never felt this "fun" but do we split up just coz i want a bit of "fun" or should i stay coz in the end thats were we'll be any way ??

[grumpii]

why dont you want to "be " with her? Does she dent your self image ? it sounds good to me .

[redhead23]

marti
stop making excuses the fact that u even need to ask us means something is very wrong here mate, have a trial seperation u know what i was in a simillar situation with this guy i never was in love, i loved him , cared very deeply but always had doubts do not be with someone for the wrong reasons ,
u can still stay friends believe it or not , no one wants to break someones heart
but ultimatly it will be you who thinks what if?? xx

[Pippa68]

For what it's worth I felt this way about someone ~ and made the mistake of marrying him.

I wish I had the guts to have finished with him before it got that far...we divorced 7 years later but 2 kids have been born into that relationship ~ and even though I love them to bits I grew to hate their dad :o(