Advice...

[Kaylz1988]

Ok before I even start an argument with my boyfriend, thought id ask ABers advice. My bloke is going to Brighton on Saturday during the day... hes going with his cousin and a few mates. The thing is one of his mates is his cousins boyfriend!! So I know if he goes her and her mates will go to! But theres one of her friends who I dont exactley like. As shes rang my bloke a couple of times, I am not suggesting that he likes her but it just really irratates me. Coz if any bloke would dare ring me it would be world war 3... The other reason why im abit paro is coz whenever he goes clubbing with his mates and his cousins people he never invites me. Whether its go karting, park, paint balling. Until I brought it up. Its like he has something to hide. So couple of sats ago he invited me up the park with them all. And I felt really out of place no one made no effort to talk to me just say hi and bye basically. Well he knows how i feel about him going out with a group of girls without me. Coz hes exactly the same. If i was to go out with my mate and all her brothers and cousins hed blow his nut. So really i just want advice on how to approach it without causing an argument. Coz we havent argued in nearly 2wks which is wicked. I dont want to spoil it ...

[4getmenot]

well thats good you trust him. I think you just need a bit more give and take in your relationship. As I said start doing to him and see what he thinks. and croydon long way away from me :-)

[Kaylz1988]

Yeah I do trust him like 98% of the time.
Yeah I totally agree on his behalf thats what he needs to start doing!

Where can you meet new people? I think I need to start socialising with more people. See with most of my mates they got babies so their kinda restricted to do things. Then I got like one other mate who I see sometimes...

Where can you meet new people?

[4getmenot]

I think thats when it started getting bit lonely for me, less and less of my friends would be out as they all have children, and my best mate although having no children was with her bloke all the time. So I could feel very sorry for myself when he changed plans and I'd be sat at home coz too late to organise stuff. Do you have a local pub? Coz after a while I juist used to go up to mine on my own and speak to people.

[Kaylz1988]

Yeah exactley this mate of mine she has a bloke and there always 2geva... Umm nah I dont really have a local pub... theres pubs and bars in croydon which is only 15mins from me but that is really scary. I dont even like shopping on my own lol.... sad ay... I fink you shud move up to london! :-)

I was thinking internet but then they could turn out to be psychopaths lol...

[4getmenot]

yer try my space and make friends

[Kaylz1988]

Yeah I could do that.:-) Are you at work?

[4getmenot]

yer shhhhhhh

[Kaylz1988]

Lol me too! Dont worry!

[tiggertan]

Me 3! Hi girls, Kaylz, good luck with talking to your man. Hopefully he'll understand that being a couple means you should do things together. No point being together if you're always apart.
X.

[4getmenot]

if you ever want to chat off of here my e-mail is [email protected]

[4getmenot]

sorry that should be [email protected]

[Kaylz1988]

Thanks Tiggertan... :-) Yeah well I'll see what happens Saturday really... if I get an invite or not lol...

[Kaylz1988]

Thanks 4getme :-) xx

[wleshbeetle]

i think just leave him go if you cause an arghument and leave on bad terms then thats when they are more likely to cheat or flirt cos theyre in a mood with you and want to hurt you, i say leave him go and wish him a fab time and see him when he come back! My boyfriends going on tour now tomorrow, im really nervous cos i know what girls are going to be like all over him, but i havent made a fuss ive just said have a brill time

[Kaylz1988]

Yeah thats good advice. I haven't started an argument with him as its the last thing I want to do. So I texted him earlier just saying I never wanted him to feel like i was having a go and im sorry if thats what it seemed like. Just that it would be nice to get to know his cousin and all her friends properley so when I am around them I dont feel like a total outsider. And he seemed pretty cool about that and rang me and never had a go. Was really calm. :-) x

[nuoyg]

I think that is just blokes - they just sometimes tick us girlies off! They don't realise and I don't think they even mean to - it's just the whole 'women are from mars/men venus' (did I get that round the right way?) scenario. Just try to convey your point - i.e. if you was out with your friends and a loads of lads and he knew that there was a lad there who had been phoning you, wouldn't it make him a little uncomfortable/left out - kind of thing. I'm sure if he sat and thought about it he would see your point. Good luck :)

[Kaylz1988]

Yeah exactley. Well we have sorted it out. Didnt argue :-) Yay! So this weekend should be a good one. :-)