My Ex Wife lives next door with my kids

[time2fly]

and has done so with her new man for 3 years now, my new girlfriend says she'll never move in because of this, what should i do?

[lady_p_gold]

er .........move???

[hawky204]

Definately move! Get a fresh start....

[4getmenot]

move even if only down the road, as long as you dont stay next door but stay close to your children

[4getmenot]

because then the ex wont know their business believe me a street makes all the difference

[time2fly]

my kids are 9 and 6yrs old

[confused79]

i live 5 mins away from my ex and thats too close, so personally i wouldnt have wanted to live next door anyway, but every situation is different, if you have done it for 3 years it must of been okay.
What i would say though is if it effects your relationship with new girlfriend and you want this to work i would say move but still stay close contact with your kids.

[Reverandfunk]

Move, move move!

[nuoyg]

Is your relationship with your ex wife amicable? It's easy to say move, but it all costs money and annoyingly quite a bit so it depends if you can afford to. Plus you have to put your children first. The only thing i can think of is if you can't move at the moment to explain to your girlfriend that at the moment you can't move because of money/children etc, but it won't always be like that and you would really like her to move in and perhaps you could open a joint saving accounts to save money for another property in the future to convey you're serious about it.

[emx384]

er.. agree with what she says!!!!

[Pippa68]

I agree with triggerhippy.

If the parents get along ok and it has been good for the kids, why not? it's been working for 3 years and obviously the exs new mn has no problems with it..they don't seem to worry about time2fly knowing 'their business'.

I don't know how new the new girlfriend is..but you don't know if it is going to be a long lasting relationship. Why move and rock the boat for something you don't know is permanent? the girlfriend must realise that the children come first.

If the relationship continues for the next couple of years i may be different. See how the girlfriend interacts with the kids..she may change her mind, she may not. But at least you will have given it a shot.

[Markandshez]

Change your girlfriend - and why would you want a "new" girlfriend to move in with you ? - have you not learnt your lesson?

[time2fly]

thanks for all your advice.... i think that its a question of time, hence maybe after a year start to think about moving....

[chicklin]

It must make things easier for your children, having their dad right next door. So I'd say if you're happy with the situation (and you would seem to be if you're still there after 3 years) you should stay.
It sounds like your girlfriend is insecure about the close proximity of your wife.....doesn't she trust you?
In my view, the children are the most important ones so think what's best for them....plus wouldn't you miss them if you moved away?