First Love

[Whickerman]

I'm truly happily married. Love my wife to bits - she's a beautiful, smart, sexy woman, and she loves me too. I'd do anything for her. Also, life is great, and happily we have a lovely home and no real financial worries.

Why then do i think so fondly about a girl I fell for when I was a teenager? We broke up amicably in the 80's after about a year together, yet I don't think there's a day goes by that I don't think of her. I've only met her once since then, and we got on really well (in the 10 minutes we had to chat!). But I'd thought of her even before running into her that day.

[unruliejulie]

Thats first love for you whickerman. :-)

I still think about my first love often. he was a lovely lovely lad and he will always hold a very special place in my heart, a place where no one else will ever go!

Maybe we're in love with the idea of how easy life was when we were that age and falling in love for the first time. Either way, first love will always be special to the majority of us.

[Doc Spock]

When I was 8 years old we used to holiday in Penmaenmawr,Wales. I met a girl who was a lot taller than me and used to help me climb on top of the beach chalets.
Fell madly in love ( as you do at 8) and never forgot her name, Valerie Claire Clifton Brown.
Are you out there somewhere?

[cazzz1975]

I do too, even though I have a lovely partner. I think my thoughts were rekindled recently when I seen him by chance as he is now working local to where I live.

I will always have and always will have a special place in my heart for him.

[Doc Spock]

Does your wife read your posts whickerman?

[johnlambert]

I met a 17 year old girl from a town near where I lived. We were both on holiday, she had recently lost her father due to a heart attack (very quick mercifuly). To cut a long story short, I helped her through her loss, and after a few months, became her first love (I was 29, she was 17, not that that has anything to do with it).. That was in 1990, I went off to fight in the Gulf War and when I came back, we stayed together for a few months before drifting apart. She is now very happily married with a fantastic career, (she has a Phd in Chemistry) and two wonderful children. We stay in touch via email and text, both our spouces know about us and are ok about it. The point is, it's ok to keep memories, but, remember, they are memories and, no matter how strong we felt about each other, they should stay just that.

[cruella]

Hi Whickerman,
Have you never heard the old saying "You have a first love, a last love and a lost love"
I have to admit I have never felt that way about any ex boyfriend or my ex Husband as I have the most wonderful Husband anyone could ever have. He was diagnosed today with Cancer for the second time in two years but I thank God for every day we have together.

[Whickerman]

Doc Spock - You're kidding, right? Do you think I'm nuts?

Cruella - I'm desparately sorry to hear your news. Cherish every moment.

[B00]

Can't add to the post as I don't think I had one??

However I just wanted to say hi to Cruella and that I was sorry to read that about her husband- God bless Cruella, hope things get brighter for you both xxxx

sorry whickerman for the hijack......

[cruella]

Thanks guys,
Got to say it has been a terrible day.
Well, not to worry, we have been down this road before and as long as we have each other, will will hang in there.
I appreciate all your good wishes .

[johnlambert]

You have all of us as well cruella,
god bless you both
Xx

[fine,thanks]

be well cruella, hope tomorrow is better for you both,

[skyep]

Whickerman - Maybe although you are very happy with your life, your life is too perfect? What I mean is, did you have more excitement with this other girl? Was she ' alive ' Was she unpredictable? There must have been something pretty unique about her to still come into your thoughts.

[skyep]

cruella - God bless xxx

[Whickerman]

Hi Skyep

No, she was quiet, very pretty, and very intelligent, and I fell for her big time. I broke up with her so that I wouldn't stand in her way when she went away to university. She had also become my best friend by the time we broke up. I was heartbroken but it was the only thing to do - I couldn't go with her and she deserved the best, including no hassles when she left. I know that she's now a university lecturer, and happily married, so it worked out for the best for all concerned, but still...

[skyep]

Whickerman - Is your wife a go getter? Do you sometimes feel maybe she could be there for you more emotionally perhaps? I'm trying to read between the lines.

[Whickerman]

don't try too hard! - we're really happy, outgoing etc. We have pretty much everything in common. Don't get the idea that i'm obsessed with the other girl, far from it. It's just that for maybe 5 seconds every day I catch myself thinking of her, and it's a nice memory. I don't feel guilty - I wouldn't swap - but I'm just curious to see if I'm the only one (apparently not from the answers above).

[-Zorro-]

Dont eat the sushi over there John...the thallium taste is yuk

[skyep]

Whickerman - Sorry, just looked over my reply, was trying to crack the case :0) It's wierd isn't it how people from the past can come in to your thoughts! Many years ago I was seeing a lad who lived life pretty much on the edge, took drugs ect.. I was attracted to his wild side, although he definately wasn't ever going to be a long term relationship. He still occasionally comes in to my thoughts. I am now married to a very lovely man, we have a good marriage & we are very happy!

[rabbitygirl]

Used to meet my 1st love at Euston Station - it took me donkeys years to stop looking for him when I travelled in to London (not too often) Turning point came with the demise of slam door trains with pull down windows which we used to snog thru as the train home pulled out. Just realised I dont think I can be really sure what his name was now......!!