is this the same for all wives???

[lynneylou]

we're off to corfu in a few weeks and although i cant wait for the break i know me and my husband will fall out over his constant desire of lookin at other women in their bikinis!!! this does nothin for my confidence and we end up not speakin. it will be our 10th wed anniversary when we are there and i desperately want to feel good about myself. any quick fixes to feelin great??? do all men do this to their wives???

[888sally888]

Not all men do this but I think its quite natural really. You have to remember that your husband has been with and loved YOU for 10 years and I bet some of those bikini women havent had babies either.

My advice is to get your own back. A few 'sneaky' looks at various 'lunch boxes' by the pool or on the beach accompanied with a 'whoar' should make him see the error of this ways!!

[lynneylou]

thanks for reply, he doesnt do it sneekily but he doesnt comment on them either, it just makes me feel unattractive!!!

[Sasha13]

You've got to remember that blokes are visual creatures - in the same way that some women go all gooey when they hear about something romantic, blokes like to look - they can't help themselves. It doesn't even mean that they even find the woman attractive.

You won't stop him looking - the best way to deal with it, as you say, is look and feel great yourself - get some waxing in before the hol, as well as a few sun beds, manicure and pedicure - then, as 888sally888 says, have a little look around yourself - there's nothing wrong with it at all.

Have a great holiday and don't let this ruin it.
x

[Reverandfunk]

He should at least be discreet and/or wear his mirrored sunglasses lol

[Theoldsilver]

It's very difficult to sneak a look at a beautiful girl, it's only a beautiful view but lets face it, it's only windowshopping and you will be the one going home with him. Jealousy is a creeping disease and can kill a relationship if allowed to flourish. Try flirting with him a little and see how he flirts back. Cold silences were never allowed in my marriage and just used to tickle her if she tried that on! It amazes me how otherwise intelligent, sensible and caring people can allow themselves to become so hateful to each other over trivialities. BE HAPPY!

[teag1rl]

take the mickey out of the situation-tell him to take a picture, it'd last longer, or ask him if he need help pushin his eyes back in off those stalks.
def recommend the advice from the others-get waxed, tanned etc and pamper yourslef for the occasion to make you feel sexy-it works wonders for self esteem x

[jno]

people are supposed to find the opposite sex attractive, that's how the human race continues. If he's just looking, not wolf whistling or jumping on them, then that's pretty normal. It sounds as if the problem is really to do with your own self-esteem. Pedicures won't do you any harm, but maybe you need to ask yourself exactly what it is that you're afraid of. If he's shown no interest in running off with anyone else, and goes home with you at night, and has done so for 10 years, then he sounds like he's the sort of guy most women would love to have - and you've got him. Have you any deeper reason to be worried?

[Skreecheeboy]

I agree, you'll feel much better if you take good care of your feet.

[treacle84]

And a hair cut. A good cut and colour to suite your face can work absolute wonders :)

[lynneylou]

thankyou. beauty salon - here i come!!!!!!

[str]

Sorry but i really dont think 888sally888s answer is right. It just encourages him to do it more. He'll think because you do it too, its ok for him to do it. I genuinely don't think most men mean anything, its just the way they are. The best thing to do is find yourself attractive, then it follows on that other people will too. A quick fix is to give yourself an all over fake tan to set you off. Everyone feels healthier, slimmer and more attractive when they are a lovely golden colour. Then get yourself a really well fitting, flattering bikini or one peice - some one pieces are sexier than bikinis especially the ones with cut out waists - they pull your outline in).

[Panic Button]

and surprise him in the bedroom. Turn the holiday into a sex fest. Make him realise he has already got the best.

[Panic Button]

(Your husband asked me to say that)

[tarapalmer74]

Does it really matter who he looks at? He goes home with you at the end of the day doesnt he!
My husband doesnt do that ever he said he loves me and only me and doesnt need to look at any other women.
Its me that looks lol and i am bi so i look at the women and not the men even when i say look at her he sayswhat fr i have you how sweet is that!
we have been together 5 years.
Go to the beauticains get a good wax eyeborws underarm legs the lot then have a relaxing manicure pedicure and a massage.
Then off to the hairdressers have a nice hair do and colour go home and stun the pant off him!!