Hmmm...

[Silversky]

I'm not quite sure what to do, I was wondering what any of you would do in my position...
Me and my boyfriend have been together for 6 months, and we love each other dearly.
He's early twenties and doesn't earn a major amount.
Yet has made up his mind that he wants to take me away for a weekend in November (for my birthday) to Paris.
Which you can imagine is exceptionally expensive.
I feel really really bad and guilty about all this, as he is spending all his money on me. And granted, as much as I would like to go, I wish he'd except some of my money to help pay, or wait until we can afford it. Is that a bit selfish of me?
Any ideas on what to say to him? Or what would you do?

[nuoyg]

I don't think that is selfish of you. It sounds like you have a nice relationship and are happy with one another. Why don't you say instead of going for your bday go for your one year anniversary and then you have six months to save for it.

[stokeace]

he sounds a nice goy.........if you shop around you can get a cheap enough break in paris....go and enjoy yourselves.

[nutgoneflake]

He sounds like a sweetie. He obviously worships you and wants to do this for you - why don't you let him, but save up some money of your own anyway and buy euros with it a week or so before. He may find it easier to accept your contribution if you say "it's just a bit of spending money." That could make a difference once you're there I think!!??

Hold on to this one!! xx

[Silversky]

Thanks for your replies... Don't worry nutgoneflake! I wouldn't let him go anywhere : ) I love him to pieces. And yes, he's an exceptionally amazing guy (I'm very lucky) :D

And I did think of that idea nuoyg, I might ask if he'd rather go later... But I'm not sure on anything yet.
I'm just really nervous of spending his money. I'm pretty money concious anyway, and I dunno, just makes me feel bad. I feel bad about him spending anything on me, let alone the price he's willing to pay for us to go to paris.

Thanks again : )

[Le Chat]

If you are both young free and single, especially if you have no children, no mortgage and no responsibilities, then please let him treat you. Enjoy it whilst you can!!

[fran2]

Silversky, If he wants to treat you,let him. Maybe its a matter of pride and he obviously wants you both to have a good time. I don't know how long you're going for but you could suggest you'd at least like to pay for 1 meal?

[Silversky]

Thanks for your replies again.
Hi fran,
We were planning to go for a long weekend. And it does sound like a good idea if I pay for some of the things when we go.
And I agree when you said about it being a 'pride' thing. Definately.

[bednobs]

trips to paris do not have to be extortionate. i took my husband to paris for his 30th and spent 200 quid for a weekend all in (2 star hotel, on the outskirts, metro ticket pass type thing, did a lot of walking and holding hands etc!)

[Silversky]

Yeah, I guess thats not bad. I guess I'd just feel guilty about him spending 50 pence. Typical me.
But what about getting there, you didn't mention any price on that.
It just seems so expensive....

[Katy May]

My partner and I have an arrangement - I pay for (and arrange) the holidays and he pays for the evening meals. That way I don't feel resentful and he doesn't feel like a paid companion! It works for us as we both feel that we are being treated by the other!

[dot.hawkes]

you should tell him u won a hundred quid on the lottery and give it him towards it, he'll be chuffed, lie i know but hey, it's a plan

[Silversky]

I take it you go out quite often then =P

[Silversky]

Hmmm. Dot, I imagine he'd still refuse it. He wants to pay for it, and using it would be my money.

[bednobs]

that was includng coach/hovercraft/coach

[Silversky]

Oooh, hovercraft... I hadn't really thought of that. Quite cheap Im guessing then? Did it take long to get to paris after that? and was it a package deal? or did you organise everything separate?
thanks : )

[knobbynonuts]

Oh god silver sky you have brought a tear to my eye and I am a fully grown man (apart from the brain that is)
Whatever happens wish you all the best and its not that expensive to get to paris so just go for it and happy loving to you both....

[bednobs]

it was a package with the hotel it was a city breaks brochure from the travel agents

[Silversky]

Awesome, thanks for that bednobs... Thats really helpful stuff : )

And awww knobby : )
What brought on all that then?