My boyfriend and his obsession

[alc2285]

My bf is really obessed with one thing when it comes to our sex life. He always wants me to do something to him that I really do not enjoy. We fight about this all the time. He tells me that he loves me and if I want to get married then I have to learn to like it because he can't marry a women who doesn't do it. I told him not many women do this for a man. He just don't believe me. What do I do?

[xhxmxsx]

next time he asks in such a rude way do it and accidentally catch him with your teeth that'll teach him

[Black Noir]

LOL @Richie thatlightened the mood didnt it !!

Are you alc's boyfriend??

[MrBen5]

Hmmm, form a mans prospective alc2285, oral is a lot better than sex sometimes, but it depends what mood your in and how tired you are.
I dont think there is nothing wrong with him asking for it everyday as he might have a high sex drive.
Does he please you in other ways, when you want to be pleased?
The question you should be asking yourself is 'do you think you can put up with it?'
If you cant then your better off ending your relationship as if he doesnt get it off you, he will go elsewhere...

[nadcookie]

I wouldn't do anything i wasnt comfortable with i mean neext time he throws all that in your face ask him would he really do something you wanted that he wasnt comfortable with?!..He sounds very selfish and if he carrys on hes going to lead the relashonship down an even rockier part!

Dont do anything you dont wanna do when you you dont feel like doing it! I agree with everyone else if he dosnt have respect for you then your better off without him!

xx

[alc2285]

Well he does do it for me. He knows not to "go" in my mouth. I just find it hard because of the way he goes about asking for it. Its seems unfair because after he gets his then we have to wait awhile until we can make love and then by that time he just doesn't want to cause he got his. He is really good at doing it for me but I just prefer love making. As for Richie1976, you sound like pigs. I don't see how you can say "The best thing to do is to thank him by performing it twice a day, then cook him a nice meal." When you demand that from a women then how do you expect her to do it twice a day and then cook your pig headed a** dinner. I am surprised if you would even have a good woman if you treat her that way. I don't care to hear anything else you have to say so just move on to being a jerk to someone else!

[Sasha13]

1. Richie 1976 was joking.

2. It is totally unfair (and I may get lambasted for saying this, but I'm going to anyway because it's true) for you to 'allow' him to do it to you and not return the favour. It's totally hypocritical.

3. Lots of women 'do it' (as though it was a chore?) for their blokes, and a lot of them actually enjoy it.

4. All that being said, it is totally unfair of him to 'bribe' you with marriage for blow jobs. You either need to work out why you don't enjoy it (he's unclean? that's a whole new question i.e. how to tell him; you don't like the taste of sperm? etc) then see if you can get over it, or (and I think this is a better option) dump the loser.

[Sasha13]

I totally used the word totally too much in that post didn't I?

[jno]

Richie was pulling your leg. I was assuming your bf was all take and no give, but apparently not. I still don't think much of his demanding ways. But is there any way you can sit down and discuss what you like and want and what you're prepared to do, preferably without it turning into a fight? Could you for instance reverse the order of your lovemaking - full sex first, oral later?

btw I don't think Sasha is right to call you hypocritical. Sex isn't a matter of bargaining 'I'll do this if you'll do that'. You shouldn't do things you feel uncomfortable with, whatever. But she's right to suggest you ask yourself exactly why you don't like it. You can't actually change someone else's behaviour, only your own, so it's worth analysing exactly how you feel and why.

[Lanesra]

He should definately not be demanding you to it if you don't want to. Making love should be something that comes naturally between two people who are in love, therefore if he does love you he shouldn't be demanding you to do it and no matter how much it hurts that you keep refusing to do it, he should be keeping your feelings at heart.
But like what many people have said on here - If he gives it to you, you should give it to him. You can't expect to take without giving it back.

And what he said about marriage is Bull - does he even know what marriage is about. Obviously marriage doesn't consist of giving oral all the time. It's about love and officially joining 2 people together.

a few days ago, i was discussing witha few friends about the problem people have with giving oral sex. I agrued that giving oral is a sexual act which doesn't haven't to be given but can be if you want to. A friend, a male, said he couldn't stand the fact that people give orals becuse he finds that it is an unclean method of sex and the thought of kissing the same person after is revolting.

Although, giving it may not be pleasuring you in any way - (like others have said) wouldn't pleasuring the person you love be pleasuring you? But in your situation, he doesn't deserve any pleasure if he can't respect your feelings. Make the right decision - don't let him pressure you into anything!!!!

[priorylisa]

In answer to Richie1976
Fri 13/07/07
07:17 Semen can help you lose weight and gives a great glow to your skin. Interestingly, men know this. His offer to allow you to perform oral sex on him is totally selfless. This shows he loves you. The best thing to do is to thank him by performing it twice a day: then cook him a nice meal.

WHAT A CROCK OF ****....I DO HOPE YOU IANT SERIOUS. DIK.

[alc2285]

priorylisa, I like you response to richie1976. What a jerk huh

[wookette]

tell him to go do it himself!