alcohol fuelled arguments

[jen85]

things between my bf and i are great. we love each other so much and love spending time with each other, theres is just one problem that is stopping our relationship from being perfect! whenever we have a night out and a drink we always without fail end up arguing. were emotions r high and we both become a bit sensitive he usually says the wrong thing and i react. these arguments r nearly always about ex's. its making me feel really down. i really love this man and we wnat a future together but im afraid that in the end we will both get fed up of it and part ways. anyone else have this or r we just a weird couple? :o(

[Beads]

If alcohol is the problem can you not limit what you drink or don't drink at all. For example, one alcoholic drink and then one soft drink?

[taperface]

You don't say how old you are, but it looks as though alcohol is the problem here - not specifically you or your boyfriend. You could try alternating an alcoholic drink with a soft one, or iced water - and then have a few early nights! I'm sure you can find better things to do (and also save money) by not always ending up in the pub.

[pennyb04]

it seems to me that the alcohol brings out both of your insecurites, if you weren't bothered by each others exes then you wouldn't get upset about them - try to figure out what the problem is when you haven't been drinking, I think it may be something other than alcohol that is at the root of the problem - or have you always been like this after drinking? If you have, then cut back

[natalie_1982]

I think we have all been there at one point or another (I know I have!) when we've had a bit too much to drink and end up blowing all things out of proportion and having a huge row.

I find that if you have both had a bit too much to drink and feel like it is heading that way then just keep your gob shut! Easier said than done I know, but honestly bite your tongue and tell him (and him to you aswell) that you won't talk about whatever, ex's in your case, right now but if he wants to bring it up in the morning then you'll happily talk about it then. This has happened nurmerous times over the years with me and my hubby and now we don't row atall when tipsy, it's really not worth it. half the time neither of you have a point but are just being drunk and stupid.

At least if you if refuse to row after you have been drinking you can wake up in the knowledge that you haven't said something awful that you regret, that there is no awkward silence and if there is a genuine issue then you can discuss it whilst sobre as adults. Good luck x x

[wisewomen]

I know a couple who have exactly the same problem. Fortunately for them they are not regularly out drinking, but I think they both are aware of what happens and it makes them more aware of how much they are drinking. They have done lots of talking to understand the triggers and they both just do their best to avoid the situation and if it does happen they talk it through in the morning and things have worked out fine up until now.

[4getmenot]

When I go out and my mates partners are there like weddings I can guarantee by end of the night they will be drunk and arguing. I always think this is because one doesn�t like other one drunk or they wind eachother up being drunk. I don�t argue with my bloke because when we go out together and get drunk I let him do what he wants to do and he lets me do what I want. If he gets so drunk he cant get home that�s his own fault.. He used to do it alone once and get home ok and I�ve always been very independent. But if you cant act this way the only way is not to drink. xx

[Reverandfunk]

If you cant handle your drink then dont.

[kilkenny]

I think you know what the problem is. It is alcohol.

Try to find other ways of socialising together and disuss your ex boy/girlfriends in a sober state.

Sorry if this sounds curt but I talk from experince. I had a long term g/friend who dumped me because I was argumentative when I drank too much.

Belive me, if you cannot drink in moderation then do not drink at all.