Do you believe in love at first sight?

[filthiestfis]

....I dont. I believe in lust at first sight. Quite often someone tells me that theyre not interested in what a person looks like in order to like them, that theyre not into looks...then a while later they tell me "You've got beautiful eyes" or "I really like the dark mediterranean look in a man" and thats when the real them comes out. Its pointless to deny that as human beings we dont judge people by the way they look. If you find someone physically attractive then you are going to treat them better. If you find someone physically repulsive then you're not going to want to date them. Unless you're Stevie Wonder I fail to see how anyone cannot be influenced by looks.
What do you ABers think? Do you agree with me?

[Goodsoulette]

100 percent. There are some guys that based on looks that I just wouldn't date IF I didn't know them first. Looks alone will only last one date with me, its not the only thing, although if I then tell my partner a few months down the line that he has a "lovely Mediterranean look" that doesn't mean thats all I like about him, just as when a guy tells me a few months down the line, I love that wobbly, pale English look... I don't assume thats the only reason he's attracted to me.

Some guys claim to not be interested in looks because they like a girl with a bit of meat on them (and conventionally thats not supposed to be normal), but thats because thats what they like and find attractive and really winds me up that they think they deserve a knighthood for not wanting a size 10 girl.

[confused79]

I can speak form personal iew, my ex husband was not the best lookingoke on the block in fact he was very skinny and short for a man, but i loved him back then it had nothing to do with his looks why we split, it was the type of person he became and cheated on me and treat me like sh!t that made me lose feelings for him, if he was a stud i still would have lost feelings for him.

[Goodsoulette]

and I would be offended to the core if a guy ever told me he was interested in me for my looks at all he just liked the person inside.

[Octavius]

Leg end, Well of course that does happen, but in most cases the love and lust has subsided so they indulge in infidelity. That leads to trust issues which inevitably destroy the relationship. I think you are confusing lust, love at first sight and attraction, with long term love in a marriage or relationship. However, as you have said, a lot of people become complacent when they are married/long term partner and let their looks, figure and dress sense wander. This can lead to a lull in attraction (why on earth did I marry that slob? etc) which in turn lessens the attraction and potentially the love. These are things which can be helped. Also you have an element of natural change which comes with age and children, and your perception of attraction changes. You either love someone enough because of all their attributes to accept that they will change with age, as will you, or you don�t.

Anyway, this Q is about love at first sight.

Confused, I remember Kelly on Big Breakfast, and to be fair she wasn�t the sharpest pencil in the case, but intelligence doesn�t have to be about intellect, and I think she is a very clever woman in many other ways.

Goods, of course I like a woman with a bit of meat, but I prefer that meat to be lean.

[China Doll]

Love at first sight is bulls testicals to my way of thinking.

However... This looks thing...

That's very subjective. Beauty in the eye of the beholder and all that.

I very rarely walk in to a bar/club etc... see a good looking bloke and fancy him. However if I walk in to a bar/club etc...
and hear a lot of people laughing I will look to see who's making them laugh. (And usually what they're saying).

If I like what they're saying and they continue to make them laugh, then I'll check out what they look like in more detail.

So actually, looks aren't really the first thing I'm attracted to at all. I tend to find if I like you enough to pay attention to you in the first place then I can generally find something attractive about you. If I can't then it's not meant to be and I'll continue my drink/book/whatever it was I was doing...

[leg_end758]

it takes allsorts.
ive known some very pretty women.

easy on the eye.
then they start talking to you and you think.

oh my god get me out of here shes a nutter.

im afraid no end of good looks wouldnt make me wanna be with someone i just found annoying.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?vZtMb1xQVZNk

LML�M

[China Doll]

However I do agree with GS.

The first man that tells me he's attracted to me initially cause of my sense of humour rather than my looks will find himself in A&E pretty sharpish.

Womans perogative and all that...

[Octavius]

China, I was with some friends in a bar a while back and a lot of men and women in a circle were laughing and guffawing, and amidst that rabble making everyone laugh was Peter Stringfellow. I think you would have a hard job there!

[4GS]

^^^
and PMT
I was attracted to Mrs4GS
on our first date I realised she was the one

[4GS]

The PMT jibe was directed at China, not you Octavius

[China Doll]

Agreed Octavius, his inner beauty might be hard to spot.

Hence the bit where if I can't find something attractive about you it's not meant to be.

William, I have not put someone in hospital due to PMT for about seven years now...

[Octavius]

That as may be, but are they still there?

Actually (this sounds like name dropping again) but I also heard the dulcet tones of Jade Goody outside a cafe in my local high street a couple of weeks back, and there was a definite air of queasiness, even before I looked to see who it was making ALL THAT NOISE.

[4GS]

Octavius
I'm my opinion that woman has a face like a buuldog licking urine from some stingy nettles

mind you, I'm no oil painting :-((

[China Doll]

No. They only needed a couple of stitches. (It was an accident in my defence and it really isn't as bad as it sounds!) :0)

There used to be a really good looking bloke that came in to a shop I was working in when I was at university. However he was also a complete letch and used to make me feel physically sick.... And he always tried to touch my hand whenever I gave him his change.

Shudders