Can't take any more bad news!

[yinyang]

Sorry to come on and moan. just feeling a bit low and don't want to keep bothering my friends.
Last week we found out that my dad's brain damage had been caused by a stroke ( even though he'd been admitted and released from hospital twice and told it wasn't a stroke) and so there is nothing they can do for the vision problems and confusion. Thay also said that the cancer is spreading and he can't have anymore chemo. Since then dad has been very sleepy and his skin has taken on a yellow hue suggesting liver problems. Yesterday he started to get pains in his legs and his toes started to turn very dark. The doctor said basically his circulation isn't strong enough to carry his blood around his body anymore and it may be the first stages of his body starting to shut down.
Then this morning, my mum got a phone call to say that my dad's mum passed away last night. She lived way up in the outer hebrides and we never saw much of her; she had severe dementia the last few years but still..
This means since december we've lost my dad's oldest closest friend who died while his wife was watching their young daughter's nativity play, my uncle and my dear grandfather; both from cancer; my husband's workmate and friend who was only in his early forties and had a baby daughter and now my gran. Mum has never asked the doctor how long they think my dad has left, they agreed they wouldn't but he is just in such a bad way.
So, any tips on how to avoid total insanity while experiencing a year like this because i really don't know how much more my family can take!

[Kleiber]

Yinyang - I've been there, too, as others know. Like cruella says, take each day at a time and cherish the time you have together. You'll get a lot of support from people on here - you're not alone. God bless. K xxx

[minniemoo]

Hello Yinyang, I have just been sitting here feeling sorry for myself - my mum is dying from cirrosis of the liver, which I have to admit is due to alcoholism and sometimes I feel so angry with her but I often have to remind myself that it is an addiction (and one that she turned to because of many many tragedies in her life). Anyway I read your story and I only have one thing to say - you sound like such a lovely lady and your husband sounds wonderful - as is mine and I thank God every day for him. I am so so sorry for what you have been through and what you are going through now and hope and pray that you and your family will all get through this difficult time. As has been said in previous posts, take it one day at a time which is what I do. Take care and I will be thinking of you. xxxxx

[yinyang]

Kleiber, thank you. I know you have more than your share of sorrow; hope you are doing ok. x

Minniemoo, so sorry to read what you are going through with your mother. I know how hard it is. Glad you have a supportive husband too, we may moan about them sometimes but we'd be lost without them.
Please keep in touch through here and let us know how you and your mother are doing. Take care. x

[Hellyon]

You have every right to feel low - as I always tell friends, sometimes it's allowed.
I'm sorry things are rough at the moment, it often seems to go this way and I can only reiterate the old saying 'this too will pass' and although no help right now, it is true and eventually all this will be behind you.
In the short term - and this is very small consolation I know - you do have the opportunity to spend time with your Dad and say 'goodbye' properly, saying everything you want to say.

Big hug to you wish I could be more help (((((((((X)))))))))

[mkep7]

There is HOPE
I lost six family members this year including my dad who had a rare form of cancer. Bareing in mind i have a small family infact just four of us left. well actually five of us now my girlfriend gave birth to my little girl last week.
There is always a light at the end. My heart goes out to you.

[EngTeach]

Oh Yinyang,
I am truly sorry that all this has been crashing in on you.

I can only echo what the others have said about the precious time you have with your father. Having just lost my mother 2 weeks ago, I am thankful for the time i had with her. If only there were more.

I have to stop b/c I cant see the keys too well. I get a little boo hoo at times. God's Blessings and Comfort for you.

[Kleiber]

Hi, yinyang - thanks for your answer - yes, I'm doing OK now, thanks. We just take every day as it comes.
You keep your chin up & like I said, cherish every moment. Love, K xx