Whats wrong with me??????!!!!!!!!!

[6758]

have been trying for 21 months now and going to infertility clinic next week!!!!! So nervous....

Ovulation kits tell me I'm ovulating but GP reckons my tubes might be blocked.
Partner has an excellent count with good motility.. What Can I expect to happen at clinic next week?

[annie0000]

I can only go by what happened at my initial appointment, after having a chat about your sexual habits and your menstrual cycle, I had an internal scan which checked out your internal equipment. My OH had an examination and was issued with a supply of sample bottles to hand in sperm samples on a regular basis. Futher down the line, I went on to have a laparoscopy and something where the shoot dye through your tubes to check that it can get through. They told me after that that one tube was partially blocked, but that should be no barrier to conception - I was pregnant the next month! Like you, I had been trying for a while and I think the stress got to me a bit, but when they said that everything was okay, I was immediately more relaxed.

I am sure that your appointment will go fine - try not to be too embarrassed, remember they will have seen every situation before and you need to be very honest about your sex life in order for them to help you.

Good Luck

[6758]

thanks annie, am just really worried their going to tell me i cant! and i'm tired of the same thing every month, i've even stopped getting hopeful!!

When you say further down the line, how long can this process take? I have no idea what to expect either time wise or by what tests they can or will do...

[annie0000]

I guess the process will take different legnths of time depending on a: what tests they need to do and b: if you need any specific treatment and c; your health authority.

I can remember being in exactly your shoes, so worried about what they are going to say, preparing yourself for the worst, and in my case, I think that the stress of not getting pregnant straight away was what was stopping me getting pregnant. I had an irregular cycle and after trying for a while and getting nowhere, i started having bleeds in between and everything, so it is no wonder I didn't get pregnant - it was heartbreaking every month though, so I know how you are feeling.

My initial appointment was in April, I had my laparoscopy in July, got the results in September and had a bouncing baby boy the following 5th July. Our friends were going through the same as us at the same time, but had started investigations a bit earlier, they ended up having IVF and had a girl 10 months after our first boy. I had a second son 13 months after my first!

I guess that if you are ovulating and your partner has a good sperm count, then as long as the egg and the sperm can meet then it looks positive. If you do have a blockage, I think that that is precisely the situation that they will be able to help with.

I think that it is 1 in 4 couples have problems conceiving, so you are not alone - just keep your chin up. My sister in law tried for 9 years and now has 2 beautiful children through IVF and a work colleague tried for 12 years with all sorts of treatments, but conceived naturally after they had really given up and has a lovely baby girl.

I am sure that you will be fine - just be careful that you don't put too much of a strain on your relationship, they will warn you about that at the clinic probably.

[Ice.Maiden]

Two friends of mine were in a similar position - but they'd tried for years, as opposed to months. turns out they both had PCOS - but both now have babies, so good luck!

[6758]

Thanks for all the info and encouragement! Will just have to keep our fingers crossed and hope for our turn to come...

Will let u know how we get on. XXX

[Pippa68]

I remember my aunt and uncle trying for years. I think in those days you didn't expect to get pregnant quickly and fertility treatment was in it's early stages ~ the first test tube baby wasn't even a twinkle in her dads eye yet ;o)

Anyway, I think my aunt was going to get some drug (something like Clomid) and before they started it whe went on holiday. 6 weeks after coming back she discovered she was pregnant, and 2 years later she was pregnant with number 2! the doctor said that as my aunt had relaxed and knew she was going to have treatment she fell pregnant without 'trying'.

Not a lot of help, I know..just wanted to let you know that miracles CAN happen, and I wish you all the luck in the world xxx