If you have older kids......

[Quoi]

Did they turn out the way you expected?

[christine847]

I have a son who is now 20 and he is perfect!

[funnygirl]

Yes. after a few hiccups in the teens of my middle one, they are all doing great!!
You know how some parents do exaggerate how their kids are doing, but I am really happy with mine!!

[glenelg]

My son is now 25 years old and as a teenager he spent many a long hour either in his bedroom or with friends. communication was an effort and yet when he went to stay with friends and their parents I would get phone calls to say he was so polite, friendly and a pleasure to be with - had they got the wrong child. I spent time with him, dicussed issues, supported school work and he has grown up to be confident, articulate a pleasure to be with and loves his Mom to bits. So yes he has turned out the way I expected.

[jules1968]

I have a son of 16 and i am incredibly proud and happy with the young man he has turned out to be! and he loves his old mammy loads ! :-)

[bigmamma]

My son is 23 , I am very proud of him , he is a wonderful son , and I love him to bits :-) xx

[saxy_jag]

Mine are 27 and 24 and I have to say, generally, they've turned out not so much as I expected, but nevertheless how I wanted.

The eldest was eccentric and precocious (was diagnosed OCD a few months ago) and we were always at loggerheads - he even moved out to live with his nan. I never expected him to stick at anything sensible or worthwhile, but he's proved me wrong and has made a career for himself in computers.

The eldest wasn't academic and trained as a landscaper, but then jacked it all in for warehousing, which he seems to like well enough. Like glenelg's son, mine were always well-mannered and polite outside the home and still are, and of that I am eternally proud.

[jg96]

Have a daughter 22 and son 26 never given any bother very proud of both of them and our great relationship.

[rabbitygirl]

My 2 handsome sons of 28 and 25 are happy, sensible, kind guys. Good job done. Although we raised them properly, when you see what's out there I am truly lucky.

Having kicked them out in September and moved house, its been great having them around for the Xmas.

It will also be lovely to take them home again on Sunday!!

[pastafreak]

My daughter is 22....after an absolutely hellish period from 15 -18,she is now perfection and is at uni in London doing chemistry/management...love her!!

[spanner7853]

I have 2 older kids aged 13 and 11, my daughter is the 13 year old. At primary school she was an angel, every one commented on what a lovely girl she was. Now it's different, she has attitude, is rude to teachers is late to class and goes to school to socialise rather than learn. She is nothing like I thought she would be. My son on the other hand is so lovely when he wants to be, does well at school and is really well behaved. My daughter can be as well but other times she is just awful. I am hoping it's just an age thing.

[pastafreak]

Poor spanner...you have a few years of that to look forward to....but I promise: it will get better!

[megan07]

Hi Quoi, my daughter is 28 and she is everything, i could wish for. hugs megan. xxxx

[beerbelly]

Very dissapointed , male offspring now 21 .
Wanted him to follow in fathers footsteps , be a chef , work your Bo**ox off for minimum wage , and have a problem with the drink .
But he's a computer technician , earning shed loads of money for doing nowt ,and only drinks coke .
Very dissapointed !!!!!!!!

[andy-hughes]

Our two older girls are very different, and grew up very differently.

Eldest was teenager-from-hell, left home at sixteen, utter nightmare. Now 32, settled with long-term partner, two children, house and jobs each - wonderful.

Middle daughter was an angel, worked hard at school, studied hard, became a nurse. Now 31, having adolescence late - self-centred, immature, no job longer than two years, but married so at least doing all this away from her parents.

Youngest - 18 - had usually wobbles through teens, now settled, working and studying to be nursery nurse, long-term boyfriend. Still lives at home but very loving and easy to get on with.

You just never can tell - as Chuck Berry said.

[droopdrawers]

My son is now 51,and only child.

He was a good kid that grew into a bolshi barsteward, but as his parents we loved him and his wife to bits.

Verbally abusive phone calls and face to face demands to us......until

2 years ago he verbally insulted us in our home slammed the door behind him never to be seen since.

His Father who had adopted him as a small child had a Heart Attack from the stress. He knew what has happened but to this day has never enquired if his Dad is dead or alive..

So no I am not far from pleased with the way he grew up.

I guess it goes to show you can give them too much without realising it.

DD