Personal Effects

[Tara999]

What can a solicitor do if an ex partner (unamrried) is witholding personal effects, documents, passport etc and wont give them back?

[Ethel]

Why don't you report him or her to the police for theft - tell them you are worried about the documents being used fraudulently/

[Tara999]

Thanks Ethel, but the police refuse to get involved further, he used to be mentally and physically abusive to me, I have tried to contact him but he just ignores me constantly. Meanwhie, he sits pretty slowly destroying my life.....he has made so ill....had to leave a job because of his mental torture....and im truly at the end of my tether....

[Jugglering]

Tara - please contact Women's Aid http://www.womensaid.org.uk/ or call their 24 hour helpline on
0808 2000 247 for practical advice and support. They have branches all over the country, you are not far away from help.

[gallapunk]

I had exactly the same problem with my ex,-husband Tara, and I'm afraid my solicitor couldn't do anything to help me get back my personal belongings (I didn't want the TV or washing machine or anything like that; just my own clothes and effects that he would have absolutely no use for, but some of which were very important to me and of deep emotional value to me). The court ordered him to give me everything I listed and he agreed, but he didn't let me have anything.

I hope your solicitor can do more for you, but please be prepared to lose every key to your past. In the end it will be worth it because you will be able to start again properly without him/her in your life. My very best wishes to you.

[gallapunk]

Oh yes, and don't bother the police, they aren't interested, even if the ex puts a Rotweiller in the house that you still own.

[thugulike]

If you still own the house then you are surely entitled to enter? My ex removed jewellery belonging to me (not bought by him) to give to his new wife. I rang the police and explained that as far as I was concerned the jewellery had been stolen and I would claim on my insurance and needed a reference number for the claim. They turned up and made him return it. You have my sympathy.