Domestic Violence

[FEELINLOST]

If you have been with someone for 10 years and its been a rocky relationship because of the things you have done, what do u do?

I met my partner at a young age and did a lot of lying at the beginning and really wasn't a good person. I have hurt my partner a number of times and he has stuck by me through thick and thin.

In the past 5 or 6 years if I have done things which have upset him or made him angry it will result in violence on occasion.

I'm close to my partner's family but really don't know how to handle the situation anymore. Am I being selfish as really I have hurt my partner emotionally and yet he has stayed with me but now I can no longer face the violence and feel scared and confused.
Do I really deserve this despite what I have done to my partner?

Any advice please-thank you

[raysparx1]

Hi rocklolo, i am just so glad you have done it, please stay in touch and let me know how you are doing, I find it so sad when anybody is treated as badly as some of you ladies, why men do this i will never understand, but look on the bright side now, no more crap, and lots of happiness, take care and good luck, if you ever want to mail me for a chat my e-mail is, [email protected] try to keep smiling, you as well FEELINLOST xx

[rocklolo]

thank you Ray ! i have taken note xxxxxxxx

[tarapalmer74]

Having been there and done that im with Mr Ben yes you do deserve it to a degree but then again no one deserves to be hit so i'd leave ask him to go cuncilling with you while you are apart and work the relationship like it was a new one do exciting things that yung lovers do but dont go back till you have both recived the councilling you need.

[lil123]

Hi hope you are well
I have been in a very similar situation to yours but for 20 years until I left once and for all
I had to live in a refuge for 9mths until I found my own place
I am now rebuilding my life and have finally excepted that none of it was my fault that my ex lead me to believe for all those years
womens aid are brilliant even for a chat and they never judge anyone
take care
Michelle x