Hello lil123, I haven't beenn through a divorce so can't comment on that, but it is obviously going to be very traumatic, and a year is not very long is it, you did the right thing in not getting involved with somebody that shows any signs of being abusive,
in time your confidenne will grow stronger and you will feel able to really move on from the past, I would do as you are thinking and bide your time no way rush into anything if somebody asks you out for a drink or meal go and enjoy the company without any commitment on either side, good luck with whatever the future holds and remember there are some decent blokes out there. you might even meet him when in tescos waiting at the checkout, take care, Ray xx