my daughter

[MONTCRIEFF49]

txt me last night to say she is going to the cancer clinic as she found a lump on her breast and asked me if cancer is in the family as you most of you know i lost my sister in dec but the 1 who is still alive has breast cancer should i tell my daughter this or wait till she has seen the clinic in case its nothing major i dont want to scare her even more than she is as i live miles away from her any suggestions plese or idvice to give her xxx thank you x

[sausagechips]

I think that you need to be honest with your daughter. She will be scared but atleast she is getting something done about it straight away. If she says there is a history of cancer in the family she might get prioritised.

[redcrx]

tell her. She will need to disclose all family history and its better if she knows so that she can be treated quickly.

Its a bit late now but if there is ever an illness likely to be carried through the family line, like cancer, forwarned is forarmed. She may not have even found it if she didnt check, and many women dont check as much as they should.

I hope its nothing, just a build up of fluid or a cyst and that she well. But please tell her!

[sausagechips]

There is plenty of help and facilities these day to fight cancer successfully so please stay positive for your daughters sake.

Hope everything is alright.
xxx

[what..the?]

Depending on how long she has to wait to go for the screening and wait for the results.

If its a long wait I would tell her the truth now but try to under estimate the seriousness of sisters condition.

If however she will get the results quite quickly, I would hold back telling her, till she knows her results for sure, just to stop her over worrying.

[MONTCRIEFF49]

she is going to
the clinic on the 30th of jan

but thanks for the advice
i will ring her tonight and tell her

as she is only 28
i hope it nothing to serious
just a fatty lump or somthing milder as she only egg cup size

not that it makes a different on size of chest i know but just to give you some idea wat size she is

[redcrx]

i think the majority of lumps do turn out to be nothing dangerous.
Always best to know your history though, no matter how scary it may be, purely so that you can be on the lookout for such things.
At least she checked herself and found it and contacted her GP

[cruella]

Monty
I agree with everyone else on this thread.
Your daughter really does need to know this information. Apart from anything else, she will be asked at the clinic if there is any family history of this cancer.
As there is, she will probably get priority in her diagnosis, and if any, treatment.
Hopefully, it is probably nothing at all, but better she has it checked out.

[smudge]

I know how you feel about worrying your daughter Monty, but I think it's best to know the thruth about family medical history.

If you think about it, your daughter may have gone to the doc's on her own without you knowing & wouldn't have been able to tell the doc much your medical history.

Our neighbour found lump in her breat 4 years ago & everyone in her family were beside themselves with worry, but she went on to have all appropriate treament & glad to say she's now very well & back to work.

I'm sure your daughter will be fine Monty, so try not to worry too much. Easier said than done I know.

Take care. -x-

P.S. Let's know how she gets on - thinking of you & yours...

[Eve]

Having been through having lumps investigated last year twice at the same age as your daughter it's one of the first questions they ask, often on a questionnaire you fill in before you see the consultant.

From what I remember for Ovarian cancer too and any other breast conditions.

If she is or could be pregnant she should let them know too as that can cause lumpy breasts.

There are often different referrals depending on risk ie things such as tethering and a close family history get a more urgent referral (I had tethering so was put on an urgent though harder to tell with me as am a 36G). Best to let her know as soon as possible.

I must say I had the most fantastic treatment from my local breast clinic on both occasions and it turned out to be benign fibrous adenoma.

Has she been sent some info about what they do at the clinic? They may go for a fine needle aspiration if they can feel it and a scan.

Has she got someone to go with her as it can be a bit of a wait between consultant then scan then consultant and sometimes they get you to wait for the results of the fine needle aspiration if they do one.

As said before, most lumps are benign and just fatty lumps.

Will be thinking of her tomorrow x

[MONTCRIEFF49]

thanks red and smudge
i will be phoning her at ten

i will let her know then

thanks for all your help
it has made it a bit easier to tell things now

il try and put it to her as it may be no y thing to worry
about as my sister is ok at mo
she had the lympho treatment
she didnt have it removed
thanks again

all xxxxx monty x

[MONTCRIEFF49]

jenna
she has her boyfriend with her
and his family
but none of hers as i say we live miles apart
at 1 stage she said she was trying for a baby

but dont think she pregnant at the moment i will ask her when i phone her lata tonite xx
thanks for your concern and all others x

[MONTCRIEFF49]

told my baby all last nite she
is ok with wat i said
keep you posted after her results come in



lots of love to you all


nice that you care
lv you all
xxx

[pussnboots]

Good luck for your daughter MONTCRIEFF49 I had a real bad scare last year when a mamogramme showed a negative result, after another lot of ultra sound and prodding and poking it turned out ok in the end. It is very frightening for any woman to find a lump or any abnormality in her breast but most of the time it is nothing to worry about, I really hope this is the case with your daughter.