what do i do in church?

[meredith101]

I used to be religious, all my family is religious. I go to a wedding with them soon but don't know what to do. I actually disagree with religion pretty solidly, so how do I deal with it without giving total offence. They're catholic. Do I kneel at the consecration? Bless myself. Give replies when necessary?

[legend004]

Play a blinder.
Follow their lead.
No need to reveal what you got.
Just run with it.
Weddinghs dont have much religion involved.
So cards close to your chest youll be ok.

[meredith101]

I can see what you mean 'Not much religion involved.' In fact, you're right. Except:
-it's in a church
-a priest presides
-it's a sacrament of the church
-it's a mass
-they kneel half the time.

Apart from that...yeah! Might as well be in a brothel.
;-)

[figure]

When I find myself in a situation like such, I pay attention but remain quiet and always respectful of their practises. If I attend a Muslim or Hindu function I don't worship like they do so I sit quietly or stand if necessary.

[Androcles]

Agree completely, Figure. Although I did find it difficult recently at a family wedding where they were born again Christians with Rock that was so loud, I thought hearing damage would ensue. And all that waving hands in the air.

The best bit was when four of them got together to say some prayers which they made up as they went along and one of them caused our eyebrows to be raised when she starter talking about the wife being there to OBEY her husband. The rule was almost broken but we managed to stifle the laugh.

We also went to another family wedding with was Mormon (OK - we are a diverse group.) We found the Kareoke part interesting.........and the practice of anybody who wanted to say something about the Bride and Groom just getting up and saying their piece, some of which was quite cringe-making.

Chacun a son gout!

[meredith101]

"and the practice of anybody who wanted to say something about the Bride and Groom just getting up and saying their piece"

:-p

I think war could break out in a few weddings I've seen.

The funny bit is communion. Catholics go and take communion, or stay in their seat if they've sinned....and are not 'holy' enough to receive 'The Lord'. I will be right at the very front. The fact that my whole family vacates the row to go to communion while I stay still will look like this. Whereas...I'm staying still because of respect....as in, I don't believe the eucharist is the body and blood of christ, so why should I insult them by taking it to just fit in.
I'm shuddering at the whole thought of the thing.
Last time I went through this, I saw a friend going up in the queue to receive the eucharist from the priest. He stuck out his hands, the priest put the host back in the chalice thing, then put his hand on the guys head, said a prayer, and blessed him instead! What this means is 'I believe, or have information to believe, that you are such a sinner that you are not worthy to receive this, and will act as such in front of everyone'. What a horrible practice!