Violence Towards my Boss

[ivehaduremum]

i was just wondering if anyone has lashed out at their boss at work? I work in a small office and he is like a school teacher and keeps putting me down which is really getting to me.  Yesterday he made me feel so small and upset that I stood up and gave him a good slap round the head, i am now at home suspended.  I know i will get sacked when i go back in but do u think i could ask him for a reference for my next job or would it be a bit cheeky?

[jakesi]

Dont forget that this is bully awareness week(or was it last week never mind) so get one of those blue bands on your  arm when you go back to work, when he see's it he'll soon shut up.

[Casey]

It would not be cheeky at all to ask for a reference. If I were you I would leave now!! Your boss sounds like such an ar**hole, and if he ever threatens you in anyway then go straight to the police.

[ivehaduremum]

if i wear an armband he will just laugh at me and i know he wont know what i means.

[Morrisonker]

if you have reason to believe this man is doing all the things you say (breaking and entering, intimidating employees, stealing etc) then if makes *no* difference if it's work related.  Go and speak to the police now.  Yes, they're going to find out you hit him, but you could get this guy sorted out for good.  And like Ahmed said, who knows what's in this guys past, maybe he's had complaints made against him before?

 

I'd also say that you are probably entitled to talk to the MD without your boss being present, and if they refuse, then just walk out.  You're not going to lose anything by doing so.  If you, or he has a complaint then you have every right to make it in private without the other person being involved, especially if he's been making threats against you.

[bad11thebone]

 

Simple if he does sack you then make sure you smack him again only this time mean it and hurt him some more.

[Hgrove]

get in touch with your local law centre;  you can probably claim constructive dismissal as he has been humiliating you in the office (in front of your peers?);  it may or may not be unfair dismissal, they will advise you. I think there is also something called ACAS who may be able to advise you or send you easy to read literature on what remedies / avenues are open to you.

[Juliebobs]

Fight fire with fire - go in for your meeting and explain to the MD how your boss has been treating you and make an official complaint against him which surely they will have to investigate if you are telling it to the top man. Has your boss bullied anybody else in your office? if so could you not all band together and all register complaints against him? If this fails get tough and threaten him back! tell him you will tell anybody and everybody what sort of a person he is and that you will throw enough mud that some of it will stick. Tell him you will report him to the police re his elderly neighbour and that if he wants to find out where you live he is more than welcome to pay you a visit where you will be ready and waiting for him - you have already hit him once tell him next time you will sort him out good and proper or you will get somebody else to do it for you!! The only way to deal with bullies is to stand up to them. I am not a violent person but some people need a good smack !!

[Ouisch]

I used to work for a boss similar to yours in many ways...he wasn't an alcoholic, but he was a crook and a psychopath.  And I don't use that last word lightly - over the years I worked there, it became obvious that he had no concept of right versus wrong.  He often told me to falsify documents as part of my job.  Anyway, he had many high-placed relatives (attorneys and such) and I realized that any sort of complaint I made would be my word against his.  I simply found another job quietly, without letting him know, and left him my resignation note on my last day.

 

Of course, because he was such a narcissist, he didn't keep an eye on a lot of what went on in the office (for example, he was completely ignorant when it came to computers), so I was able to get my own private revenge by tweaking the office computers ever so slightly the night before I left.

[Pinotage]

I think this is a wind up. I also find the posters name offensive.

[Octavius]

I think this is a wind up too, next thing you know the boss will be a member of a major drug cartel, running a crack house, money laundering, buying women from eastern europe....

[Scullywoo]

I agree with Octavius and Pinotage.  You are totally on a wind up!  It all sounds way too far fetched if you ask me.  You probably work behind the deli counter at Asda!! :)

[gypsy]

when i was 17 many moons ago..i worked in an office in a factory and i went on the factory floor to see someone about their wages and this maintenance man put his hand up my skirt..so i turned round and slapped him hard accross the face and he had a heart attack..which served him right..anyway the boss asked me why i did it so i said it was my skirt not his..and i was asked to leave well i did and they gave me a reference..but if it was now i would have had him for sexual harrasment...the women in the factory were to blame because they used to encourage the maintenance men in fooling around so i guess they thought i wouldnt mind either...i bet he never did it again,,gypsy

[GeordieSteve]

Make the most of it... nip down the quacks tell them your suffering from stress... you get 6 month or so off work paid and it explains you thwapping your boss ;)

[KEJ2000]

If this question wasn't true, it was still funny as H---.  If it is true, what no one has mentioned so far is that you should begin documenting every instance of misbehaviour on his part.  Write down the date and time of every statement he makes to you, and write down your boss's exact words if you can.  If you can get some of it on a tape recorder or an answering-machine recording, or in an e-mail message, it will be very powerful evidence in your favour.  If you do go to court either as a prosecutor in a civil suit or a defendant in a criminal trial (for physical assault), you will need as much hard evidence of his misconduct as possible.  Women have won sexual harrassment cases with no more evidence than a long list of everything inappropriate their boss or co-worker ever said to them, with the date and time of the comment noted.  But without that list, their case would have been a far more difficult one to make.  You situation is not unlike that of those women.

[Yinzer]

First of all when an employer contacts a past employer as a reference there are laws that basically keep the past employer from saying anything bad about you. All he can really do is acknowledge that you worked for him (I learned this in Uni recently).
Second of all, go to www.whackyourboss.com

Who cares if it's cheeky? Isn't he?