Last Requests?

[Drisgirl]

This is NOT morbid.
I have to revise my will on Tuesday.
I dont want the people left behind with the arduous task of having to second guess what I would have liked played or said at my funeral.
I am struggling as i dont want a religious send-off -I want a celebration of what had been my life with the people who cared for me.
Dilemna is the music.

My swansong -which is Sweet Caroline (I know -lol) but it would make people smile -appropriate?

Last request -Paulo Nuttini -lyrics are brill -but when I am off to the kiln do I want people to lay down beside me?

Would like a nice poem -but not the usual W.H Auden one -which I love -so what ?

Bay City Rollers - Shang a Lang --again -appropriate?

I am struggling ATM -any suggestions or what would you have?

[beejaybee]

i don`t want a funeral. i want to be put in a cardboard box & cremated. no music, no crap words spoken by somebody that doesn`t know me, no flowers.

[Drisgirl]

Thanks everyone -I just want to have my wishes if you like recorded cos sometimes -as has happened recently in my family-nothing had even been discussed and it added more stress deciding what to do.Ended up with the bog standard minister and the 2 bog standard hymns -which didnt reflect his life at all.So therefore I want to remove that burden from them and if desired they can add anything on to what I have documented.

I'll post again with my choices -they are ace and I am deffo wanting everyone to have a good knees up afterwards -have to start putting money away now lol

[KRUSTYMAN]

Can I beg of some of the people here who have stated that they want no words or formal funeral to please think again. I can honestly speak from personal experience, some years ago my wife and I, along with other members of her family attended the funeral of my wifes aunt who had requested no funeral service, no prayers, nothing at all! She simply wanted her body thrown in the ground, no fuss, no ceremony. For those of us who attended, whether through desire or 'duty' it was awful - nobody knew what to do or say, the undertakers were totally gobsmacked and didn't have a clue as to what to do and we were all just left looking at each other feeling very, very awkward and unsure of what to do and when to wander off. Even now thinking back I can almost re-live the cringeing feeling - it was probably the most embarrassed I have ever felt in my life and I couldn't sympathise with the poor undertakers enough. Please, please have some bequest even if it is for everyone to simply go down the pub and raise a glass or just to say goodbye in their own way but please don't leave friends and family staring into a hole or at the curtains closing and not knowing what the hell to do next. For myself I have taken some fantastic ideas from this topic and hope that it will be many, many years before my family have to act on them. Good health to you all and long may your demise be distant!!

[Drisgirl]

O Krusty -well said -that is precisely the reason I am doing this
We lost a very close family member some months back -50yr old -and he didnt leave any 'Last Requests' -his funeral didnt reflect him at all-it didnt celebrate his life cos we all thought he was invincible -well -he wasnt and we're not and i dont want my next of kin having to deliberate when they are bereft -therefore I am taking it into my own hands.