is there something wrong with me...

[xxlizziexx]

ok so as alot of you know im a 14 year old girl, ok so my problem is that i think im werid. i used to rub myself but i didnt get anytihng out of it no matter how long i did it for. so i just left it, i tryed it again about 4 months ago, but noting happened again, im kind of with someone at the moment and hes tryed it a few times and it still hasnt worked. i spoke to a friend of mine about it and she said that i would get it when i have sex instead beacuse hse doesnt get it from sex she gets it from rubbing herself, does anyone else have this problem? or is it just me?? help!

[SGKelloe32]

It may be that you are trying too hard to reach that point, it happens when you are totallyrelaxed. Some women need both outside and insidestimulation simultaneously before they can climax.Relax and enjoy it.

[FP]

Lizzie.  You are not weird.  You are very young yet!  Obviously, you are keen to learn and I understand this.  To give pleasure to yourself you need to feel aroused or it just won't happen.  You need to be with someone you are really, really fond of, fancy like mad, and trust completely before you start experimenting with boys in this way.  It will not work for you otherwise.   Your body is very special to you and, believe me, you will find out in time how pleasurable it can be in time.  

 

Just have fun for now, believe me everything will sort itself out! 

 

 

[Casey]

Should you really be doing this at 14? You are too young in my opinion and are rushing into things.

[xxlizziexx]

the reason i tryed it again casey is beacuse alot of my friends do it at school and thats why i tryed it again to see if it will work,
I do relly adore this guy that im with at the moment.

thank u all for your answers so far xx

[FP]

Lizzie.  You don't have to do things just because your friends do, or say they do.  Just follow your natural instincts in your own time.  I do remember being your age and talking with friends and you can't always believe what your friends might tell you.  Sometimes they say things just to appear to be grown up.  As Casey says you are really very young to be experimenting in this way.

[banjo]

I totally agree with Fakeplastic.  If you aren't 100% ready you probably wont relax and therefore probably wont enjoy it either.  There's no point in doing something just cos everyone else says they have.  What's right for one person isn't necessarily right for another.

[Hammer]

I don't think 14 is too young, of course you are curious at this age.

You need to be really relaxed and comfortable, maybe try it just before you go to sleep. It will take a while, especially as you are still learning what to do, so make sure you set aside maybe half an hour or so when you won't be disturbed.

Don't get hung up on aiming for an orgasm cos it might not happen, just do what feels nice and enjoy!

 

 

[Morrisonker]

14 is too young for sex (in my opinion) but too young for ...ahem... going solo. 

 

I wouldn't worry about it Lizzie, you probably just need to relax.  Whatever you do, don't let your friend make you think you have to have sex to get that feeling. Believe me, at 14, boys don't know what they're doing with their own bodies, let alone a girls!  So just take some time out and do it in your own time.  It'll happen, it'll just take some time and practise :)

[Morrisonker]

oops, I meant *not* too young for going solo.  They really need an 'edit' option in this site

[xxlizziexx]

thank u all so much for your answers, they all make sence and i agree with many of them. im kind of with a guy at the moment, hes 17, so he has done it with other poeple before and thats why i got scared that there was something wrong with me beacuse he said on most other girls its worked. o i adore this guy, i no he is old 4 me and i agree but for now we are happy, he adores me and i adore him. thanku all again xx xx