What time for bed at 10 and 12 yrs old

[tgm1974]

Just wondering what the general time is that people put their kids to bed ... I have an ongoing "chat" with my partner about the times he lets his son and daughter go to bed when they have school the next day. I wont say just yet what time he lets them go to bed but they are age 10 and 12 ... and have to be up at 7.30am for school.

Whats reasonable to everyone?

[daffy654]

My 10 year old (almost 11) goes to bed at 9pm every night of the week and is allowed to read until 10pm.

[Psychick]

I think a lot of it depends on what the child needs. Some need their sleep, others dont.

I think for a 10 year old, 9pm is late enough for a school night. If theyre not tired enough to sleep, do as daffy does, and let them read for a while. I think 9:30pm is fine for a 12 year old but definately no later than 10pm on a school night. I used to have to go to bed at 9pm when I was 12 but didnt have to go to sleep straight away.

[mumof3angels]

My 11 year old goes to bed at 9pm on schoolnights and stays up till 10 pm on fridays and saturdays. My boys are younger so go to bed at 7 and 7.30.

[Velvetee]

It's important children get lots of sleep, as this is the time their growth hormones work and their bodies grow. Also they need to learn to get into the habit of getting up early, so they're on time for school etc.

I personally think 8- 9pm for children over 9 and under 14 is reasonable during the week.

[meltoadhall]

my just turned 11 yr old goes up at 8.30pm and my nearly 13 yr old goes at 9.30pm on school nights.
sometimes later at weekends, depends what we are doing.
they have to be up at 6.30 on a school day.

[tigerlily11]

After 4 children bed time is any time they get annoying. :-)

[growbag]

Hi
My children are very nearly 10 and very nearly 12, ie year 5 and 7. The younger one is supposed to be in bed at 8.30, lights out at 9 when there is school the next day, with the older one having the same arrangement an hour later. On Friday and Saturday nights they are allowed to stay up a bit later. There are exceptions - the younger one was allowed to stay up late last week to watch the Chelsea Man U match (and went to bed broken hearted!!) , although I'm not sure I'd have agreed to that had I realised how long the match would last for.
However, when the nights are light it's quite difficult for them to sleep. Plus I love the fact that they are outside all the time, not playing video games. So I do get a bit lax. However, the younger one is always in bed by 9 when there is school the next day. My older one seems to need a lot less sleep, but even so I insist he turns his light out by 10 as he needs to concentrate on school. I think you need to think about the needs of the chidlren, but if they seem to be tired in the morning then they need to go to sleeop earlier in the evening, it's as simple as that.

[tgm1974]

These are my partners children and I have said the same as most of you for the 9.30pm (ish mark). He says that just because I may have been in bed at 8.30pm when I was younger doesnt mean his children have to. I explained it wasnt that but the fact that they need a good few hours sleep with school the next day. I seem to be hitting a brick wall with it as it is very rarely that they are in bed and lights out for 10pm --- they may be starting to get ready for bed at 9.45pm but I can guarantee at 10.30pm the lights are just about going out by Dad!!

They end up whispering aswell for 30 mins as they are both in the same room due to my baby son being in his own room .... they do get told off for this but what can I do. Im not their mother and the more I go on about it to my partner the more I am politely told that it does them no harm and to stop going on. Ive resigned myself to making sure Im in my room for 9pm as it winds me up otherwise. Kids even know how to get that extra bit longer out of going to bed ... "oh I have to do this, can I just watch the review from the match, etc".

Sounds bad but the his eldest son is getting into trouble every now and again in school - i really think this is due to the late nights and him being tired!

Thanks everyone