A form of post natal depression blokes can get? I mean can some fathers become suddenly depressed at the change of routine in their lives? Has anyone ever experienced anything like it?
I suppose there must be some blokes get stressed out about a wee tot coming along, all the expense, all the late nights, change of routine, fear for the future. It probably does happen. Never thought about that before.
I think post natal depression is largely do to the hormonal changes a woman goes through. No doubt though that men can suffer too, like you say, at the routine change and some men also find it hard to deal with having to share thier partners/wifes affection and can feel left out with the arrival of a baby.
I just wondered if there was a name for it rather than just depression. At least that man having the baby wont have any worries about getting post natal :-)
having a baby is a big thing for both of you.all of a sudden,you are not number one!! men are like children.they need reassurance every 5 minutes. a first child will either make or break a man.it,s time to grow up.
there,s a new little person that needs attention 24/7.there,s no time for you. yet !!
I'm sure post natal depression can affect both sexes. In women it is largely hormonal but the arrival of a new baby can be a tremendous cultural shock for both parents. You have spent 9 months expecting this event without possibly realising the great readjustment it will have on the pattern of your lives, and both partners have to renegotiate their relationship and their priorities. The man is probably feeling left out because his wife is having to spend all her time caring for the baby and both of them are undoubtedly suffering from long term lack of sleep. In the circumstances, it's amazing that anybody survives the process !! And then it all happens again when the baby becomes a difficult teenager.
Me and my fella are pretty sure he had some form of PND.....
He was soooooo excited about the arrival but the day of the actual birth was so horrific that i think it scarred him for a while after.
We were both up about for about 36 hours (i was induced), then when the birth did come and he hadn't slept for such a length of time it was all very surreal for him i think... the birth wasn't straight forward and the aftermath was disturbing (as i lost a lot of blood) and he really struggled to come to terms with things for about a month.
So yeah, i definitely can see how men can be affected by the birth of a child.