settling or compromising?

[sara3]

pls help, my head is messed up!

as some of you know, new man has been around for a few months. I like him, he makes me laugh, he is kind, caring, generous etc.. but he also has dismissed some of my opinions, rubbished my choice of tv programme, not been prepared to try foodie things I like. we have discussed these things and he sees that he has made mistakes, and has apologised.

I like seeing him but don't get that feeling of butterflies that I'd like. he's not drop-dead gorgeous but quite pleasant looking. his confidence is low, which I just don't find attractive. we've also not done the deed, because he's just not managed it!

so, when does compromising become settling? I'd hate to think anyone "settled" for me! I've been on my own for a long time and I hate it, but I'm not sure that this is what I was hoping for. should I be compromising and accept that life isn't perfect, or wait for something fab that just may not arrive?

[pips1]

I totally agree with the comments on here .... I met a lovely man a couple of years ago, after being on my own for 7 yrs (licking my wounds and very sad). If I could have written down everything I wanted in a man he would have been it, BUT there were no butterflies! I know I would have been loved and cared for for the rest of my life and I tried so hard to find the feelings but I couldn't, as I guess I was looking for what I'd felt for my ex. In the end I had to let him go and I often wonder if the feelings would have grown (as in arranged marriages sometimes). Anyway its too late now, I'm in my late fifties and have resigned myself to being on my own for good now. Hope you have better luck.

[888sally888]

The only slobber I accept is from my dog!!

I once met someone who used his tongue like a dart in my mouth - was soooooo vile!!

[LoftyLottie]

LOL at Sally. Makes him sound like a lizard!!

[sara3]

Sally - yep, he did that too, and he kept licking my teeth!

Pips, you never know, huh? better luck to both of us.

well, all of us!

[joggerjayne]

But sally888, just thinking that one through a bit ...

[joggerjayne]

She's coming home with me !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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[pips1]

OooH, JJ you're all sexed up today - lol!

[joggerjayne]

I've also been single for rather a long time.

Well, a few weeks, anyway.

[sara3]

oh good Lord!!!!!!!!!

[joggerjayne]

what?

Oh, sorry Sara, we're drifting off the point.

holds hand out for slap

[sara3]

yes, we do drift a bit sometimes!

I'm off to miserable work :o(

have a fab one x