I lost my baby girl

[Hannah73008]

I was 21 weeks pregnant and on 7/29/08 I suddenly went into preterm labor. Unfortunately I did not know they were labor pains, this being my first baby. I went to the emergency room that evening only to be told originally that I had a very bad urinary tract infection and that was the cause of my pain, until an angel of a nurse decided to give me a vaginal ultrasound just to make sure my cervix was okay, only to discover that I was 8 centimeters dialated with a "bulging bag" Needless to say I was confused and went into instant shock. I am still in shock. Early on July 30th,after been given a epidural and all that, Hannah decided it was not her time and slowly slid out of my body, it was such a special moment between her and I and I knew that they would not be able to save her. She lived for 2 hours and already was the spitting image of her very excited and now very sad father. She was so well developed to only have been inside of me for 21 weeks. We had to actually make burial arrangements for her and everything. This has been so traumatic and I still can not believe she is really gone from inside me. I still think I feel her kicking sometime. We were so confused as to how this could have happened so suddenly, does anyone have any ideas or similiar experience?

[Ice.Maiden]

How very sad Hannah. A friend of ours had the same thing happen to her recently. She lost her baby at 30 weeks - a time when many might make it these days.. The little mite's lungs weren't strong enough for her to survive, even though her mum had injections to try and prevent it, and Rebecca took her last breath as her mum cradled her.
There are no words to express the devastation that parents feel at a time like this, and I hope that you and your partner can be strong for each other.

[redcrx]

Im so sorry to hear that you lost your precious daughter. I know those who have lost as late and its an awful tragedy for any family.

You seem to be in the USA from your words but this board may help you, there is also a USA version but i am unable to find it. It may help to talk with others who have been through similar experiences, all have lost their babies. http://messageboards.ivillage.co.uk/iv-ukpblat eloss

[B00]

My daghter lost her twin boys when she was also 21 weeks pregnant, and believe me I fully understand the pain you are going through. However her little boys had already died- i truly cant imagine how much worse it is when your children are born then die some hours later.

Are you from the States then? As over here in the UK, you do not need ot make burial arrangements if you don't want (or indeed not capable) ot make them- rather the hospital will arrange a cremation and your little ones are recorded and remembered in a special garden of rememberence.

Lastly- I know you and your partner are grieving now, but it does get better over time- just got to remember that for whatever reason it wasn't Hannah's time and sometimes, these things aren't meant to be.

I'm not a great religious believer but I sometimes see the state of the world we live in and think that maybe my grandsons are in a far better place afterall- nothing and no one will now case them pain.