Selfish boyfriend or me being lame

[sunchime]

Right!! I've just got off the phone to my boyfriend and we were talking about going to the casino tomorrow night. He is going to America (taking in Las Vegas, Northern ligts, Alaska etc) for 3 weeks next month and in the phone convo he mentioned Las Vegas casinos and i said in jest 'oh i can't belive you're going to Las Vegas without me!' and he got shirty and said 'well i did invite you'. HA!! We started dating in Dece,ber last year and he said he has been thinking about a 3 week america trip and asked if id like to go. I said id love to but wouldnt be able to afford it for at least a year. So that was that. And then in March, he booked it for himself and a mate from work to go on!! I would have loved to have gone, but couldnt afford a 3 week trip this year. So now anyway he is going and we havent been away at all this year as he has used all holiday and savings on this trip. His parents even gave him �5,000 after he saved the cash 'to enjoy himself.' I live by myself, he lives in a houseshare. we are both in our 20's. Is he selfish or am i lame? Just wanted to vent my anger! any opinions welcome thanks xx

[Rtaxron]

I am going to give sunchime my last opinion before i go to bed zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz.

If I were you and you have been intimate with this Guy, which I assume you have, I would dump him.

There's lots of temptation in Vegas and probably he will be shagging throughout his holiday.

If you are still with him when he returns, get him to get himself checked out before you go to bed with him.

[Rtaxron]

Bloody hell Petal, not another one?

[sunchime]

Hi everyone, thanks for your replies. Well im kind of 'over it' now. I was just annoyed to begin with. He saved the cash and then his mum gave him an additional 5K. So he will definitely have enough money to enjoy himself!! Im not at all worried about him cheating on me (re there's lots of temptation' comment), I trust him 100%, that wasn;t the issue. I just wanted a little holiday (even a weekend break) with him. I bought a flat beginning of this year so as always with these things, money has been tight. He lives in a huge househare so bills are split and he stays round here quite a lot. i wouldnt dream of him paying for me, but i thought he might have said he could lend (and i do mean LEND) me money to have a cheap n cheerful weekend (like �200) as well as his big trip..... he never offered, so well. That's that. But like I said. Im over it all now. It's funny as in previous relationships, i have always earned more money that the guy (except one - and he took me to Bournemouth for a mini break, it was cool!) and i have paid for weekends away... nevermind. I've been promoted so am earning more money now...just got a few flat (carpets and garden) things to sort and then hopefully i will afford something next year. With him!!! haha, thanks everyone, some great opinions xx

[onlyme26]

his parents gave him �5000!!!!

therefor couldnt he afford to put some towards you going!!!

i think slightly selfish!! xx

[EngTeach]

If he made these plans before you started dating there is no problem. I would never change plans made before a relationship. I guess that is now being older and hopefully wiser, but in my 20's I might have. Then again in my 20's i probably would have been mad he went away. I would not wish for those insecure years ever again. Though the unsagging body would be welcomed back in a minute. :)

Plan something together when he gets back, even if it is a short weekend trip. Be independent.