Valentines card - to send or not to send?

[Englishbird]

I see the current 'object of my affections' fairly regularly but he doesn't know about my crush (i'm 29 years old btw!!) LoL.  I've recently found out where he lives (he told me himself, i'm not a stalker) ... should i send a valentines card - and if i do, should i drop a hint in it or should it be totally anonymous?  I have to point out that despite being an outgoing person, i get cripplingly embarrassed about this sort of thing.  My gut reaction is no but interested in others opinions.

[landie]

Send your card, I'm sure he'll be very pleased to receive it. Hint but don't be blatent.

[zknight]

Send your card and just be blunt. you can't lose what you never had.

[OBonio]

If he's married, then I'd say no for the obvious reasons ;o).  Otherwise, go for it!  And give a little hint like 'see you at work' just to get his guessing glands up.

[Wispy68]

I would drop in a very subtle hint. What have you got to lose?

[Scarlett]

Yes yes yes you MUST send it. You never know what may happen! But nothing will ever happen if you do not send one. Can you write a tiny hint? I once sent one to my big crush, and it was totally anonymous, and that was the end of that!!!

[AllYourBase]

Go for it! Make the hint fairly easy to interpret BUT leave a hint of ambiguity in it. Us men love this, trust me!

[Morrisonker]

I'd say no, I'm not a big fan of the whole Valentine's Day thing and I personally think the whole thing is horrifically tasteless and tacky.  It's no different from any other day of the year, so if I was in your situation I would sent the card, email or whatever on any other day.  Be different and there isn't the risk that he'll just laugh off the card because of the day.

 

If you do send it, sign it.  Otherwise all your angsting anf pondering will have been for nothing.

[chinadoll]

go on send him a card...and how about "from 9-5 you keep me alive" and maybe something like I'll be weariing something blue/pink/green/red.......wear a bangle something discreet but not invisible  or something and see if he comes up and says ..."Is it you?" and that will be the start of a wonderful .......

Have fun.

[Englishbird]

thanks for your replies guys :o) i'm still not convinced.  I'm not a general fan of V day but am still thinking about it as I don't want to let the chance pass.  Mind you, if i do - and he works out it's me, it's just all going to be too horrendously embarrassing for words isn't it.

[Gevs1966]

yes, especially if he doesn't feel the same way about you.

 

Then again, what if you don't do anything about it and find out at a later date that he did feel the same. Surely it is worth risking a bit of embarrassment for a short time to find out........

[cocopops]

I think you should definitely send him a card at least you will be expressing the way you feel about him. Put a little hint in the card, you know, something that may give him a clue as to who its from.

 

good luck.

[CiderMonkey]

yes - do it do it do it! ok, so if he guesses it's you you may be a bit embarrassed for a moment but as you're good friends i am sure you'll be able to laugh it off. Good Luck!

[blueeyedlass]

why did he tell you his address??maybe he interested too maybe he just wants you to make a move first.i think you should send him a card but sign it and give him you,re phone number and just leave a casual message like "if you fancy dinner etc then give me a call" and then the balls in his court and you,ll know either way. go on just pluck up your courage and do it.x

[fairy!]

Did you do it???

[Wispy68]

So..did you send it? Oh, go on, please tell us!!

[Englishbird]

No, sorry guys, totally bottled it.  Have since found out that he's 'sort of' seeing someone.  Did manage to get a lot more friendly with him so maybe when he's 'sort of' not seeing someone ... who knows. thanks for all the advice, maybe I should have sent it but the old self esteem needs a bit more work I think. xx