Just said

[karmgirl]

I reckon tesco are going to buy another supermarket in the town I work in, and colleague said they were thinking about it a while ago but they have got the main one in town down the road now and I said, still think it will be tesco, maybe a tesco express and he said yes but bear in mind shop (to be sold) is too big for tesco express so I didn't say anything.

Point is in my life people always have the last word.
The people around me can't just say 'you think it will be tesco do you, I don't I think it will be asda' end of conversation

[karmgirl]

work is the worst, they are so dogmatic, but can happen with others too, my mum is not so bad.

[yinyang]

Don't mean to be harsh but it sounds like the problem could be more your perception of people's behaviour than their actual behaviour. It is unlikely that almost everybody you know is dogmatic, vindictive and judgemental, isn't it?

[karmgirl]

You culd be right yinyang, but I am almost certain the only reason people at work say things a lot of the time is to have the last word. I feel like my dad quite often has the last word and think he SOMETIMES does it just to have one up and my mum SOMETIMES has the last word but most of the time she doesn't so don't feel like shes just saying something for the hell of it.

[ummmm]

Paranoia

[karmgirl]

I'll try not to worry about it, thanks for the sensible comments x :)

[Bathsheba]

Hey hun- i've just been trawling through my old answers cos i was sure we'd chatted before. It was July when you spoke to your GP re your anxiety! I really think you should have taken up the offer of counselling. I understand you feeling uncomfortable about taking the time off work, but couldn't you tell them you were being treated for a "ladies problem" or similar? That way with a bit of luck your boss will be too embarrassed to press you for further details xx

[yummum]

just be more positive and a little stronger! some things are not worth getting this upset about! ignore them!!!!

[karmgirl]

Thanks bathsheba, I will have to do something to make me feel better and stop worrying about unimportnant things. I will try and talk to doc again. Thanks hun xxx

[yinyang]

I used to be very shy and worry what others were thinkoe but as i've got older I've realised that most people don't actually care that much about me! That sounds like a bad thing but it's not. once you realise that other people are not constantly talking or thinking about you you can start to relax around them a little more. I know my friends probably talk about me behind my back - I sure as hell talk about them - but it's not malicious and is probably forgotten about by the time they've finished their coffee.
Perhaps because of your feeling that you are under scrutiny you find it hard to carry on a natural flowing conversation. Why not try, just for a day or two being 'stroppy' yourself and not just letting things drop as soon as someone disagrees with you. yes,it will feel odd but it might be kind of fun too.

[frodsham]

I totally agree with you Karmgirl. Most people just aren't humble enough to appreciate other people's views. I do find that this attitude is tending to grow more and more. I think it's because we live in a "blameless anything goes" society that no-one is wrong anymore

[lesblue]

You are right. It is too big for Tesco Express. I have heard its going to be a Co-op

[Bathsheba]

I think yinyang is spot on there with the age point.
As you get older, you realise that most people are so wrapped up in themselves and their own problems (not necessarily a bad thing) that they don't notice the things we think are so strikingly obvious to ourselves.(hmmm, could have worded that better, i suspect) xx

[yinyang]

Glad somebody managed to make some sense of my gibberish, Bathsheba. : )