Oh my god im in court tomorrow!!!

[pinkbunny]

The long awaited court case starts tomorrow and I am absolutely terrified! My friends have been doing their best to keep my mind off of things but I just cant believe its here already! I dont know if I can face being in the same room as him even though I wont be seeing him!!! I just want to run away and hide!!!!

[dot.hawkes]

I have been through this supporting my daughter this year in court, it was very upsetting to say the least. I was quaking inside when we came face to face with her ex in the courthouse doorway, but he saw me and turned and bolted!!!! if he'd onlt realised that I was feeling uncharacteriostiacally frightened!!!! It was as much the court and the legal process that caused me to feel that way, as well as having to be supportive to my daughter. It actually shocked me at how unincontrol I felt, he obviously didnlt realise how i was feeling, he knows i can be quite forthright usually. I did not like being made to feel in any way vulnerable or repressed!!!! It was an alien feeling to me

[CAJ1]

My ex's solicitor was annoyed at me as I was pushing for a 2 year order rather than one as I knew it wasn't enough. He said to me, if I was scared of my ex then I should wait until he got me in the stand. I know solicitors are on the other side and want them to win but I did not expect behaviour like that from a solicitor to a dv victim.

[SHELLP]

Caj1 did you go into the courtroom and face your ex or did you have video or a screen? I want to face him when it goes to trial it is something I feel I have to do or else I will be scared of him for the rest of my life. I also want to listen to him give evidence I think he will find it so much harder to lie if he has to do it whilst I am there. Its something I Need to do but dont know if I will actually be strong enough.

Raggy my ex was the nicest man I had ever known when I met him and for 3 years then he got very controlling,but I would never have thought him capable of doing what he did. He is a fairly clever man with a very responsible job and when out everyone thinks he is lovely but at home he is totally different.

Hope you are having a nice day with your daughters pinkbunny.

Shellx

[CAJ1]

I waited in a room upstairs with Womens Aid until we had to go into the courtroom but once in I had to sit there and face him Shell. Its hard but you can do it.

[SHELLP]

Caj are you glad you faced him ? I feel that if I dont he will have won and still have control over me. I need him to think that I am strong and he hasnt destroyed me even though he has.

[CAJ1]

At the time I wasn't glad I was facing him and wanted to be as far away as possible. I did my bit but wasn't brave enough to look him in the eye and my voice shook so he knew I was scared but he also knew his hold on me was over and that I would stand up to him. A few months later he broke the order, I went to the police and had to do all of it again and since then its all been quiet. My voice may shake and he may know I'm scared but he also knows that I won't put up with it.

[pinkbunny]

Just had the court on the phone they just found him GUILTY!!!!!!!
Cant believe it all the stress and pain of going to court was worth it justice has been served!!!

[pips1]

I am SO SO pleased for you and your girls - hoorah and hope your life improves from now on. All the very best x

[pinkbunny]

thanks pips I can finally move on with my life with my girls knowing he cant hurt us ever again!!!

[sanden]

Thats brilliant Pinkbunny. Lets hope he gets a very tough sentence. All the very best for the future to you and your family. You can celebrate at the weekend! xx

[pinkbunny]

Thanks sanden I am off out tonight to celebrate with all my friends I am so pleased that the jury saw through him and the fact that he went not guilty all the way and put me through giving evidence means the judge should give him a tougher sentence.
It has just been adjourned till novemeber for sentencing so they can do a report but I dont care justice have been done for me and my girls and thats the best feeling in the world!

[SHELLP]

Well done Pink Bunny have emailed you cant stop smiling for you you showed him girl cant wait for my turn now

Shellx

[sara3]

pinkbunny, you've made my day. I'm so pleased for you and your little pinkbunnies =o)

[CAJ1]

Well done pinkbunny! Have a great night out later, go and enjoy your life! x

[jno]

good for you, pinkbunny. This is the first day of the rest of your life!

[pinkbunny]

Yay have well and truely celebrated tonight he he had too much champagne x x JUSTICE !!!!!!!

[SHELLP]

Glad you had good night Pink Bunny the 1st of many hopefully you deserve it.

Shellx

[Ethel]

Great news - very well done.

:)

[Rosetta]

Well done pinkbunny and great news that the b@stard will get his comeuppance.
You can really put it all behind you and rebuild your lives. THe best of luck to you and your two little ones for the future.

[pinkbunny]

Thanks Shellp Ethel and Roseta I still cant believe its over I have been stressing about this for almost a year I fled from him a year ago on tuesday! I feel so stress free now before I always felt so ill but I feel empowered now I am not sure how long this feeling will last but man I feel good.
I am just off to take the little bunnies out for the day I just cant believe I stood up to him and got justice for my babies, thanks for all your support x x