Mixed signals...!!

[curious_cat]

I have completely fallen for one of my friends and I get such mixed signals from him that it is really getting me down. All I want is to be with him but I have no idea how he feels about me. We lived together in university halls for a year and are still close now we live in different houses. Sometimes I think he feels the same about me, he flirts alot but I know he is like that naturally with lots of girls. He will invite me to hang out at his house and cooks for me and whenever we are out he will whisper to me that he think im so pretty and once i heard him telling his friend that I was the one girl he could never get, he knew i was listening though so it could easily have been a joke. But when he looks in my eyes theres chemistry there but he could just have that effect on all girls. The things that tell me he doesnt feel tha same is that he tells me about when he gets a lapdance or about girls he is sleeping with. I know he still talks to his ex and Im not sure he is over her, plus we had tickets to a concert together, i was really looking forward to it being just us but now he has invited his guy friends along... I cant bring myself to tell him how i feel in case it ruins our friendship and I just end up embarrassed because he doesnt feel the same... i just need some outside opinions. Please help!

[bms]

I think one of the ways for confirming such a thing is (as you say that he talks about his ex-g/fs): talk about yours as well (ex-b/fs) to him and see how he reacts, if he loves you he is definitely not going to enjoy it, especially if you talking positive things about him(your ex). Then take it from there.

I was just putting an opinion. Hope it works

[Belfast]

HI

I think you may be giving out mixed signals yourself - you say you've fallen out with 'one of my friends' - but the way you talk about this person it seems that he is more than a friend to you. Do you mean that you have fallen out with someone you desire or love, rather than fallen out with a friend?

good luck

[curious_cat]

ive not fallen out with him, ive totally fallen for him. I wouldnt say i love him yet but i could definately see it going that way. The only reason I call him a friend is because that is the only way he sees me...at least I think so...

[mrrobbo15]

just an idea.....not that im an expert

tell him u need/ready for a boyfriend, and see how he reacts....ask him if he cud recomend anyone.

[bms]

I agree with mrr, or put it this, " I have a crush on someone, and I don't know how I should tell him, may you please give some ideas/advice please..."
See how he responds to that one

[kujawski]

he sound like a bit of a sausage jokey