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How to end a friendship
There's things about the way she brings up her 3 year old that I just cannot stand to see like letting him watch 18 rated videos and allowing her husband to drink drive whether their daughter is there or not. She keeps wanting to meet up with me but especially now I'm expecting a baby my instinct tells me to cut the ties because I don't want my child exposed to that type of lifestyle. I don't want to fall out with her because we have mutual friends so will probably see eachother about twice a year but what do you think I can do to distance myself from her? Do you think I'm being nasty?
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For more on marking an answer as the "Best Answer", please visit our FAQ.I agree with indian honesty is whats needed here. Bad as it sounds but she needs you more than you need her and you are in the driving seat. Tell her how you feel and why you don't want to be around her day to day but let her know that if anything goes wrong and she really needs you then you will be there for her.
Good luck.
I'm sure she doesn't realise that the things she lets her daughter see or be around are not what other people would consider normal and anything I say will probably be taken as criticism that she wouldn't get over. It would be very awkward if we do fall out when we meet again at birthdays etc so I'm just not sure what to do. Maybe making excuses is the best thing but it does make me feel very guilty particularly when I remember how close we used to be and that she might be feeling isolated already.
soz, if your friends have tried b4 then i think Hgrove is right maybe you should make excuses. Don't feel guilty i know this might sound harsh but ive been in a similar situaton but with my sister and in the end i just thought there's no point wasting time and energy on someone who doesn't want to know or hear what your saying. Your better off spending the energy on other stuff especially with the baby on the way, and when you do meet up say the pregnancy and baby have kept you busy. DONT FEEL GUILTY! sometimes we all have to do these things. Good luck x
Friendships and people evolve.
Having moved to another part of the country, I don't see or contact my friends as often as I used to, but that doesn't stop us being there for each other as and when needed.
Indian's right - one day she really will find her voice and be able to express herself. I've known the situation a couple of times with people I'm close to and it does take time. It's not like you're going to be 24 the rest of your lives, and there's no telling what the future may bring.
Loosen the strings if you have to, but don't cut them.