when was the last time you

[zzxxee]

when was the last time you had an argument and did you make up or are you still not talking?

[andy-hughes]

I had a fall-out with a friend at work whom I have often gone out of my way to help - making her look very good with her bosses (she is a manager btw) which is fine. I have always said that i would love to come back to her department, and said it over and over for more than two years. A vacency came up, and she gave it to someone else. When I tackled her about it, she burst into tears and told me she 'hadn't thought ...' which to me was simply not good enough, and I said so.

From tnen on - about four months now - she has ignored me. I am perfectly willing to make up, I don;t bear grudges, I said my piece, it;s done with, but she will have to come to me.

Every day I am sorry we are no longer friends, but that is how it is - maybe at the Christmas meal on Fridaty she may make peace? I'm here if she wants to be friends, but she has to make the first move. I am easy-going, but I am not soft - a subtle but important difference.

[Lakitu]

Andy, a lot of time has passed and there is a high chance that with every passing day she will feel less able to approach you.

If you miss her friendship so much, then throw her a bone.

[MrBounty]

Throw her a bone??

There's no need for that, is there.....i'd just have a chat with her....

[andy-hughes]

Lakitu - you are probaboy quite right, but since our friendshp was entirely one-sided - me making her look good for her bosses, and getting nothing from her what ever - even a drink at Christmas when I stood next to her at the bar while she bought her entire team a drink ...

I am not missing her in the slightest!

If she wants to be friends fine, but if not, her loss, literally.