longing for another child

[lizzyha]

I have 2 girls aged 7 and 2 and I wud love another child before I get any older, Im 26 now so I wud love another the only problem is my partner is dead set against it he said he doesnt want anymore, I try talking to him and still nothing.. I so want one but obviously I cant without him!!

[fishy-finger]

maybe you could have an affair?

[cazzz1975]

you need to discuss your feelings and reasons with him, maybe draw up a for and against. both of you need to see each others side of the matter.

[bednobs]

well thats what happens - if one person wants a baby an the other dosent, usually the one who dosent gets their way. Do you want a baby more than you want your relationship?

[yecats2885]

work out why you want a baby....is it to keep the relationship together or is it because you want something to love...
spend more time with the two you have

[tigwig]

I know exactly how you feel. Last year I decided I couldn't go through the rest of my life without trying for a 2nd child. Sounds dramatic doesn't it but it was exactly how I felt at the time! We discussed it several times and my husband was so stubborn and like yours dead against it.
I let him know exactly how I felt then kept quiet and silently thought to myself how we were going to get through it if he never changed his mind. Fortunately a week later he did! I cried with relief but now he has no job so we have had to put it on hold anyway! (typical).
My advice would be to discuss it calmly and sensibly again with both of you giving your reasons why. At 26, you are hardly going to be too old if you wait a few years! I am 32 so compared to you ancient!
If he still refuses then just be patient, he might change his mind in years to come and keep the baby stuff just in case, I sold all mine!

[Schutzengel]

Perhaps you could wait a while, as you are still young, and see what happens. Have you thought that your partner could be worrying about the present economic situation, as babies are very expensive, and the employment situation is very uncertain with companies going bankrupt and employees losing their jobs. Try talking this aspect over with your partner, as men are not particularly open about their worries. Then maybe in a couple of years, if the economy becomes more stable, perhaps you both might like to have another baby. Best wishes.

[lizzyha]

thanks for all of your help really appreciate it..
ill wait and see what the future will hold..

thanks