How can i find out?

[GroovyGirl1]

Can anyone please help? I have been trying to trace a long lost love who i lost contact with in 2003. I have had no luck finding him at all, and now I've heard that he died in 2007-although there's others still saying hes alive. I've tried tracing him, posting messages etc but come back with nothing. Please does anyone now where or what i can do next

[romko]

you don't give us much to go on!
Do you know where his parents live? or any of his relatives?
what area did he last live in?
what schools or unis did he attend? former workplaces? (less likely to be useful )
mutual friends? ex flatmates?
good luck!

[broham]

Im a private detective,give me some specific details and if we can workout some kind of payment plan ill find him.

[GroovyGirl1]

His name is Nigel Carter (aka Oxford Nigel) Oxford is his home town, his mum lives there but I never met her actually. He has family up in liverpool but he used to travel around alot so was never in 1 place for too long thats why im having trouble finding him or anything out. I cant really afford expensive fees for private detectives unfortuantly!!!!

[broham]

Sorry groovey,that was just my attempt at a joke,im not really a private detective. If you know his school,why not try friends reunited?

[lilsecret]

GroovyGirl1 - perhaps not a good idea to involve broham. He is a notorious infiltratEr.

[broham]

lilsecret how about letting me infiltrate your knickers? Actually ive just had a whiff from the sardine smell coming from down their.

[broham]

There

[GroovyGirl1]

No thats cool lol!! I have tried friends reunited, missing websites infact countless ones and its just doing my head in not even knowing if he has died or not. Id just love to find him but dont know how!!!

[Ice.Maiden]

Groovygirl - is it worth it? Even if you managed to find him, if he hasn't tried to find YOU again, or he left without giving you contact details, it might be a huge let-down if you managed to trace him. He could be married by now or anything.
However, if you're determined to do it, then how about the Salvation Army? They're pretty good at finding folk.
Best of luck.

[broham]

Well either way groovy i wish you luck finding him!

[GroovyGirl1]

Ice maiden- I know & understand what your saying, I have thought the same. I suppose if for nothing else I would like some closure-If you understand what I mean. The salvation only tend to help if its family you are looking for. Thank you!!

[Ice.Maiden]

Awww...well I don't know then hun. Could you try his last place of work, to see if he left any details with them...or would someone at his last known address know anything? Did he have friends you could perhaps contact?
I DO understand what you mean hun, and I hope things work out in your favour, but sometimes, the thought of what might've been isn't so good in reality, and I personally think it's never wise to go over old ground twice.
Having said that - you never know until you try! : )

[filthiestfis]

and he's not on facebook?

[GroovyGirl1]

NO he is not on ANY network sites etc. I have baically searched the whole internet, various sites etc, been to his hometown-Oxford-I've posted msg's on missing websites + few others but I always come bck with nothing.

[danchip]

it'll take a long time but try ringing every single N Carter registered with BT

[Schutzengel]

groovy girl. Could you google the electoral roll for Oxford to find his mother's address. You could write saying you are an old friend who would love to get in touch with her son. If he's alive, well and good. If not I don't think his mother would take offence. On the other hand you could try the Registrar for Births, Deaths, and Marriages in Oxford, and enquire if they have a record of your friend's death, as if he has sadly died then it is likely that the death would have been registered in his home town, by his family. At least it would give you closure. Good luck with your search.