homless

[naylor1401]

hi can any1 help?
i have a family friend stopping with me as her mum has packed her bags and asked her to leave so ive allowed her to crash with me and my family hoping that things would settle down in a few days and she could return home but by the looks of things that aint going to happen.
shes's 16 years old and has no other family she can turn to.
i am unsure of what i can do from here because she cant stay here forever and cant go home.
does anyone know what i can do to help her housing wise and claiming beneifits, shes still at school but itsnt going to school apart from doin her exams and then due to go college in september.
any advice would be greatly appreciated
thanx x

[carrust]

Why has she been chucked out?

[naylor1401]

shes been arguing with her mum for a while and she is constantly leaving herself but this time its her mum thats chucked her out and will not let her return, they row and fight all the time also so its not really a good atmosphere for her to be in when shes studying for her exams!

[carrust]

I think an urgent trip to the housing office it required. How does your family feel about having her living with them?

[naylor1401]

its not the best of ideas her being here but ive allowed it because i dnt want her stopping on the street, shes 16 years old and wouldnt mind staying out all nite at various friends houses getting drunk etc but i wont allow her to do that.
will go to the housing office today with her and see if they cant help, but i was under the impression that she had to be 18 before they could help.
thanx

[carrust]

Just remember...you are not her mother, & you are not responsible for her behavior & drinking.

[LFCFan5]

You may noy be her mother or have a resposibility for her drinking etc but i take my hat off to you for providing a loving caring home to her in her hour of need, that takes a lot 2 take someone in & offer them a home even tho it is short term. Good 4 u & good luck x

[Coppertop84]

I agree with LFCFan you really are a good friend to help her like this and I think you seem very grown up and responsible.

Does she have any grandparents or aunts/uncles she could live with in the meantime?

I hope it all gets sorted out.

xxx

[naylor1401]

i went to the children services with her yesturday who rang her mum and her mum said that she wasnt welcome home until things got sorted properly, they offered to put her up in a hostle for the evening and then put her on a 9day trial in a hostle that prob wouldnt be located in the area so i brought her back home with me.
its causing a few problems at home with my partner but im trying to ignore that as i dont want to ask her to leave, she has a sister that is willing to take her in but she wont go there as her sister is very close to her mum so im trying to make her look at things in a different way and hoping she will go.
as for her getting some were to live alone like she wants i dont think its going to happen apparently she is her mothers responsibility until she is 18 years old so im not really getting anywere.

every teenager has there moments with there parents but this 1 doesnt seam to be budging! :-(

thank you all for your help and support x

[tamborine]

Contact Barnados....they claim a scheme of sheltering homeless teens.

[simonvs]

All teenagers have spats with their parents; they don't have to last forever! You're obviously a good and kind friend to put her up and support her, but she very probably does realise that she can't stay with you for long.

Her parents are responsible for her until she's 18, in theory. Can she swallow her pride and admit that there is right and wrong on both sides and ask her mother if they can work it out? Exam times are very stressful for everyone!

[tamborine]

Slippery slope when parents throw out kids; see them on J.Kyle show with disastrous results. The mother needs counselling more than the child - good job you're there to smoothe things ;)

Let the girl depend on you - that has its own reward!

[naylor1401]

thanx people for all ur advice n suport, she has now gone home pheew!! :-) not with out hours of talking to and getting no were and then a visit off mr police man but luckily the police put the cherry on the cake really and convinced her mum into letting her back home!

thanx again u have all been a great help :-) xx