two boys 5 and 6

[duckster]

Hi all spoke about the boys previous on this site about sleeping patterns!
The two boys just won't settle, i'm starting to struggle with a solution?

the eldest's attitude is becoming worse and affecting his mother and getting her down!
he answers her back wont do as he is told, temper tantrums, the list goes on, we have eve3n tried him at football classes and beavers, but he is just not responding to these treats and it just does not matter if we remove these privilages he just carries on relentles???

Help!

[tamborine]

If they're being disruptive - bang their heads together! Sometimes tuff love is necessary!

[FoxLee2]

Do you ever watch Supernanny Jo Frost? Seems like some of her techniques would sort your boys out.

[stonekicker]

whatever you do, don't try treats as a 'vribe' for good behaviour. they should be earnt otherwise they will just not appreciate them or care if they are removed. yes, look at supernanny for tips - jo frost is just brilliant. but, equally, you must show the child that you wear the trousers in your house, not them. sounds harsh, but my mother sorted out my brattish behaviour by removing all my belongings from my room and then locking me in. a couple of hours spent in abject boredom over a few days and the threat of it being continued sorted me right out. either that or make sure you praise the other good child and give them treats, explaining why to encourage good behaviour. be firm! x

[cazzz1975]

maybe they are relentless because they know that if they persist their mother will give in eventually ?

[duckster]

thanks all i will watch super nanny i think!!

Love to take thier belongiongs off them but i dont want to mentally scar them haha

[FoxLee2]

There's a Supernanny on E4 at 9 pm tonight.

The important thing is to set down some rules of behaviour and if they are broken, the children have to know that there will be consequences. The naughty chair, cushion, spot, stool, whatever may seem silly but it does seem to work. Children need to have boundaries and be told when behaviour is not acceptable and that is your job as parents.

Good Luck!