How can I speed up my divorce?

[dinkydo]

I filed for divorce in Feb 2005 and although my ex has been pretty uncooperative I feel my solicitor has not been dealing very efficiently with my case as I am still waiting for my divorce. There has always been some excuse or other and false promises that it will be sorted out the last one being April. At this time I was told it would be all "done and dusted" within 6 weeks and I am still waiting. Is there professional body I can seek some advice or does anyone else have any advice?

[sara3]

dinky, you don't have to explain yourself.. plenty of us have been in similar situations. I wish you all the best x

[Jumpa]

I'm sure you have sara I'm sure you have

[jedimistress]

It would not stall things if you changed solicitor. I would change your solicitor on the basis that they advised you the marital home had to be sold prior to divorce as this is not correct. You can get the financial consent / court order and be divorced without selling the house, as long as it stipulates your agreement on the shares etc.

I found a great website whilst dealing with my partners divorce. We completely dispensed with solicitors in the end.

http://www.wikivorce.com

[Jumpa]

Why is it people seem to think of marriage as a if it was the family car if it get old they just throw it away and get a new one. This is one of the main reasons I shall never tie the knot The other reason being, no one in their right mind would marry me anyway LOL Seriously tho where is the "STUFF" our parents,parents were made of? So this makes me ask please think things through before you marry someone . Think of the worst possible scenario involving a couple and ask yourself can we make it through that .? If you answer no FORGET IT

[dinkydo]

Jumpa I dont think most people just decide to "throw away" a marriage just because it is old and they want someone new. There tends to be a lot of sole searching and heartache before the end is inevitable. My parents have been married 50 yrs and they have had their ups and downs but are still together mainly because most of the time my mother simply goes along with what my father wants and says. She has lost a large part of who she was and wants to be because it would cause to much fuss to put herself first once in a while. Dont get me wrong they appear happy in their own way but my childhood was terribly unhappy as my father was a heavy drinker and became physically and verbally abusive to my mother after he returned from the local pub most weekends. He worked hard to support us but also felt it was his right go out drinking and leave my mother at home. I know for a fact if my mother had had somewhere she could have went to with 3 small kids in tow she would have left my father as she often confided in me ,and a marriage breakdown was frowned upon in our small community. I promised myself I would never ever remain in an unhappy disfunctional relationship as it is as harmful to both people involved as it is for the children, if not more! Thankfully society has changed and women are no longer expected to be the subservant individuals they were 40 - 50 yrs ago and have the choice to live life how they decide and deserve. So jumpa please dont make negative comments wtihout have the full facts!

[jedimistress]

How are you getting on Dinkydo??