Engagement

[4getmenot]

When you got engaged was it to get married? I know a very strange question as I always thought thats what engagement was about. My mate said a while back what she wanted for her birthday was an engagement ring and I just had a message saying 'guess who's engaged' I replied with 'Ooh congrats, when you getting married?' She replied with 'slow down just coz we engaged we aint getting married just yet' Now to me engaged means to get married, maybe not straight away but at least start planning or whats the point of the engagement. What does everyone else think?

[Bbbananas]

Some people just want the ring.
Some want the whole kit & caboodle.

[4getmenot]

yer but all them years back things were different redcrx lol

[redcrx]

all them years back?? cheeky wotsit!

anyway now i have a guy who darent get engaged until hes ready to actually marry.

[coccinelle]

So what about engagement presents? Personally, I don't bother anymore as so many couples split up before they're actually married.

[redcrx]

i never had engagement presents. or a huge party.

[4getmenot]

but thats good red he shouldnt propose until he is lol

[zzxxee]

ive been engaged 3 and ahalf years if i get married i will if i dont im not worried no plans to but no plans not to either what will be will be

[SuDFB]

I was engaged for 3 years (we have been together for almost 6) I only married last year because we coudlnt realy afford it before and because I didnt feel ready before as I was very young, don't see the harm in being engaged for a couple years its a sign that there is a commitment that one day you will get married.

Im glad I waited

[SuDFB]

yep didnt have a party either or presents on my engagement just the two of us :)

[karma22]

I always thought the reason to get engaged was because you were going to get married at some point.

Still is mostly the reason why people get engaged, didn't actually realise some people think of it as a separate thing but I guess anything goes in the 21st century!

[zzxxee]

yes we have been together 6 years also both in our mid to late 30s both have children from previous partners so if we do we will do it on our own as i can hardly be the virgin bride lol

[ummmm]

Well Ginger proposed to me ages ago and he still hasn't got me a ring. For no other reason but laziness. I'm not particulary bothered either....also too lazy to moan.

[4getmenot]

its lovely when its used as a commitment thing. But I have mates that got engaged at 17 then to their next bloke at 19, then another the next year....

[4getmenot]

I can understand the saving up because you are not going to have the money there and then as if you�d known they were going to propose, but my mate seems like she isn�t even thinking about wedding

[coccinelle]

Well, in the days when an engagement put off any male admirers as the girl was betrothed to be married to nowadays when wedding rings don't even put anybody off I wonder why anybody bothers to get engaged!

[jno]

4get, if you're already committed, and you want to get married, why get engaged at all? I never did. Traditionally it's the way hc said, it used to be a formal step on the way to marriage and raising a family. The reason for waiting was usually to get enough money together to begin a new hosuehold (the home as well as the family.) Nowadays, I can't see the point - especially when you have the family first.