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Why does culure not matter any more?
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Correct me if I am wrong. If a child has been brought up in a certain culture ( not religion) then why is it when they meet someone from a different culture they forget the values of there own and adopt all the good and bad from the other
My mate's son was brought up in a British Asian culture with good and bad and as soon as he met a girl from far east couple of years ago he changed, he no longer wanted to talk to his mother or family. He forgot all he bad times they put up with for him and all the love they have for him.
When the mum asked him to do something which is related to culture he refused and did, not see the importance of it. Without culture out lives would be very bland and boring we would not have the different values??
True or false?
My mate's son was brought up in a British Asian culture with good and bad and as soon as he met a girl from far east couple of years ago he changed, he no longer wanted to talk to his mother or family. He forgot all he bad times they put up with for him and all the love they have for him.
When the mum asked him to do something which is related to culture he refused and did, not see the importance of it. Without culture out lives would be very bland and boring we would not have the different values??
True or false?
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What your mate�s son is doing is growing up and making his own decisions and choices about matters that concern him.
Eventually he will settle for a way of life that suits him and that way of living will accommodate as much or as little as his family�s culture as he sees fit.
It�s all about living in a free society where a family�s responsibility to children as they grow older is to guide and advise, not to impose.
Eventually he will settle for a way of life that suits him and that way of living will accommodate as much or as little as his family�s culture as he sees fit.
It�s all about living in a free society where a family�s responsibility to children as they grow older is to guide and advise, not to impose.
i agree with you. but if we all started to do that then families will fall apart every one will be doing what suits them only and liveing a freelife style that is good for them only
surely we should all take little bit of everyting and make it work.
to ignore a mother or father because they no longer fit in with your new girlfirnds back ground is bit off dont you think mate?
surely we should all take little bit of everyting and make it work.
to ignore a mother or father because they no longer fit in with your new girlfirnds back ground is bit off dont you think mate?
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Why should he not move on from the culture particularly if he doesn't like the values. It is interesting that you talk about all the disharmony "they put up with". What did he put up with from them?
Why is he not interested in maintaining that connection? Perhaps, like many cultures his parents treated him as a subordinate who should do as he is told without question, completely missing the foundations required to form a mature relationship. Perhaps he see his girlfried treated like an equal by her parents.
Perhaps he decided eastern religious beliefs were more to his liking. Maybe being forced to pray umpteen times a day or listening to the claptrap spewing from the mouths of priests has turned him against his parent's faith. Any thinking person would.
When I grew up in the sixties and seventies there were many aspects of my cultural heritage in desperate need of change, so I worked at changing them. My values are very different from my ancestors.
I have no time for this rubbish about preserving culture. There are a number of cultures that would be best gone because they are acutely inappropriate in a modern world.
People need to be more discerning what they keep of their cultural heritage. Choose what suits from the other cultures we are now exposed to. Make up some new stuff but please don't presume there is anything sacred about a particular culture that must be guarded at all cost.
That is how we ended up with the stupidity that is religion. Maintainence of cultural practices was enforced on pain of death and so we have a planet dominated by outdated. morally bankrupt philosophy written long ago.
Sure without culture our lives would be bland. Moving from one's heritage does not mean we have no culture. But repeating rituals for nothing more than historical precedent is even more mind numbing.
Why is he not interested in maintaining that connection? Perhaps, like many cultures his parents treated him as a subordinate who should do as he is told without question, completely missing the foundations required to form a mature relationship. Perhaps he see his girlfried treated like an equal by her parents.
Perhaps he decided eastern religious beliefs were more to his liking. Maybe being forced to pray umpteen times a day or listening to the claptrap spewing from the mouths of priests has turned him against his parent's faith. Any thinking person would.
When I grew up in the sixties and seventies there were many aspects of my cultural heritage in desperate need of change, so I worked at changing them. My values are very different from my ancestors.
I have no time for this rubbish about preserving culture. There are a number of cultures that would be best gone because they are acutely inappropriate in a modern world.
People need to be more discerning what they keep of their cultural heritage. Choose what suits from the other cultures we are now exposed to. Make up some new stuff but please don't presume there is anything sacred about a particular culture that must be guarded at all cost.
That is how we ended up with the stupidity that is religion. Maintainence of cultural practices was enforced on pain of death and so we have a planet dominated by outdated. morally bankrupt philosophy written long ago.
Sure without culture our lives would be bland. Moving from one's heritage does not mean we have no culture. But repeating rituals for nothing more than historical precedent is even more mind numbing.
Yes, it's a shock isn't it ! Bet you never thought or acted that way ! Boys grow up. If they only know one way, one culture,the one that surrounds them, that's the way they'll have eventually, after a bit of teenage rebellion against it, or some of it.If, however, they see other ways, they might grow up to prefer those, without harm. This boy may think he has good reason for not talking to his mother or family but, when older, come to think otherwise.Must say that refusing to do something 'related to culture' cannot, of itself, be automatically bad. Plenty of fine people did that in their past. Some understand too that 'tradition' is the 'democracy of the dead', doing or thinking something only because our ancestors did it or thought it..
What is having a 'culture' here ? It certainly shouldn't be slavishly following the edicts, traditions and ways of any group, his mother's or anyone else's, simply because they have always done so.
What is having a 'culture' here ? It certainly shouldn't be slavishly following the edicts, traditions and ways of any group, his mother's or anyone else's, simply because they have always done so.
�Without culture out lives would be very bland and boring we would not have the different values?? True or false?�
part true and part false. he is obviously experiencing a different culture or way of life that he is enjoying. so culture still exists, just not maybe the one his mum and dad want him to stick to.
as said in the first post, its just about growing up and finding your own way in life and if that takes in other cultures as well as your own, all well and good. i wouldn�t like it that much if my friend jose insisted on going to bullfights just because his mum and dad did it. time moves on and people change.
part true and part false. he is obviously experiencing a different culture or way of life that he is enjoying. so culture still exists, just not maybe the one his mum and dad want him to stick to.
as said in the first post, its just about growing up and finding your own way in life and if that takes in other cultures as well as your own, all well and good. i wouldn�t like it that much if my friend jose insisted on going to bullfights just because his mum and dad did it. time moves on and people change.
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