am i worried for no reason?

[boobesque]

my little boy has cerebral palsy and goes to special school, as i dont drive he gets picked up and dropped off. I've never had a problem before, the women who looks after them is a friend of my mum.

the thing is callum has lost 2 teeth while at school, but more likely on the bus home from school, both times he had blood down his top and the teeth were missing, one was in the van the other fell out of his clothes, i know he puts his fingers in his mouth all the time, but the women who looks after him sits next to callum and she hasnt noticed on both occassions.

i really dont know if i should say something to the school or if i'm just being overly protective.

Any ideas or suggestions?

[mycatis]

I think you're right to be concerned, How could she not notice?

[dmsjps]

If your son loses two teeth under someone else's supervision then you are NOT being overly protective, not by any means. Ask the school to look into it. No, demand that it's looked into. You don't have to be stroppy or unreasonable, but you have every right to know what's happening and when.

[boobesque]

thank you, i thought so, my mum remembers all my toothing losses!!

i will speak to the school.

[sunflower68]

Were they his baby teeth which were wobbly anyway?  I wasn't sure if he had had them knocked out.  Baby teeth often come out of my kids' mouths at school, however it is odd they weren't wrapped up and that she said nothing.  Tell her you're writing in a special diary when and where he lost his teeth (tell her you even keep the teeth to stick in the book) and want to know where he was and what he was doing.  Perhaps a note to put in his book bag?  Good luck, try not to worry.

[catra1]

I work in a special school 1 day a week (advisory role im not employed by them). At the school i work at this situation would be unlikely to happen as they have home-school books which the staff and the drivers/escourts write in. Parents also write in them and may comment on the behaviour or the child looking pale, ahving a fit, not eating, etc etc
I must say i was quite shocked to read your post- if it was just one tooth that had been lost and there was no obvious blood i could see how it may go unoticed (as did with one of my teeth when i was little) but i dont understand how blood can be unoticed. I've seen staff panic when a child has had a tiny bit of ketchup on them after lunch and theyve checked very very carefully that there is no injury!
Speak to the class teacher and back it up with a letter of concern to the Head. Think about setting up some liason/notebook especially if you dont collect the child at the other end when they come off the transport at the end of the day.

Catra

[boobesque]

hi catra, we have a school/home book but the escorts dont read them, the first tooth had obvious blood too, as he keeps tugging on them with his fingers!

i have no problem with the school at all as they panicked when he had a little mark near his gastrostomy tube!!

i am going to talk to the school about it, cos she has started talking to me about my mum and vise versa when it is none of her business! And i find it hard to trust her now with what happened with his teeth, thanks for your help everyone!

[Adi's mom]

If any child going to school returns home in a condition that worries the parents, the parent must make their concern known to the school athourity. Any young school going child is not able to understand and explain any situation wholistically, as parents it becomes our duty to investigate and take corrective action, be it on our part or that of school athourity.

[llindsey1]

Yes do say something. Please. Something does not add up. There is nothing wrong with being protective of your son! If you aren't who will be? You need to be hi protector. Say something asap!!!

[catra1]

that sounds really poor if the communication book is not read. I would make a photocopy of it and keep it in a safe place. Then write a letter of concern to the school and copy it to the chair of governors and to the head of education (LEA) I expect they are contributing to the transport- that should get things moving. Tell them you have a copy of the transport/ home-school communications book with your complaints in- that should get things moving. The transport people I work with wouldnt dare not read the book if only to cover themselves legally!

Catra