teenage love

[oops!!!]

My friends son 13 ... 14 in sept... had been coming home from school later than usual..and makes excuses why he is late She knows he likes a girl in his class and vice versa... and suspects they have been meeting after school... shes is worried about this any suggestions about dealing with it.

[Cheekyteddy]

Tell you friend not to worry. If he is meeting a girl he is probably worried about teasing from good old Mum and Dad who of course have never been 13!

She could try asking him (the car is a good place) generally about the lateness and saying that she is fine with friends both male and female. She could suggest that rather than hanging out they could come back to her house and do whatever it is they want to do ie listen to CDs or chat. I suspect that they just hang around together not saying anything or doing anything much either so they may like the opportunity to have somewhere to go.

I personally always have let my kids take their friends up to their rooms whether same or opposite sex. They will reward your trust, your openess and your acceptance by being open and honest with you. Having done this provide drinks and snacks and don't embarras him by chatting to this girl or offering her tea!

If you are not comfy with the bedroom scenario then maybe a garage, shed or study could be turned into a den.

Be assured in spite of what you hear on the news and tv generally most young people I know have quite a strong moral code at this age and you don't have much to worry about if drink and drugs are not around.

[justineo]

Hi oops, I used to catch an earlier bus to school, when I was 14 so that I could bump into a boy I fancied.  I never told my parents about him and used to say i was meeting a girlfriend to walk to school.  My mum was very open with me when i was growing up but i still didn't tell her about my teenage loves.  Part of growing up probably. 

[lukey121]

Why is she worried?  What is wrong with this boy meeting up with a girl he likes? Maybe if the mum wasn't so worried her son would talk to her about it.